Hella Chisme Podcast
Hella Chisme Podcast is where unfiltered storytelling meets bold conversation. This show serves up juicy chisme while diving deep into the chaos and beauty of everyday life. From sex, dating, and marriage to pop culture, spirituality, and everything in between — no topic is off-limits.
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Hella Chisme Podcast
World-Wide Chisme: The Streets Are Talking!
Welcome back to another episode of the Hella Chisme Podcast.
This week, the GOTDAMN camera froze, the start time slipped, and I almost scrapped the whole plan. Instead, I rebuilt the setup, hit record on my phone, and let the mess be part of the story. From there, we go wide, holidays and family, therapy check-ins, a studio coming to life, and the courage it takes to show up without the filter.
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Hey y'all, I just wanted to let you know that we have a Patreon channel. That's right. If you did not know, we are on Patreon. Our Patreon is$8.99 a month, where you can come and watch all of our visual elements to our podcast show. So all you have to do is click the link in our description box and it will take you right there. It's only$8.99 a month. Make sure you go and subscribe. Bye. My name is Dana, and I'm your host. Welcome back, y'all. What's going on? Um, before I get into my regular old rigmaro of the things, I just want y'all to know I feel like a real idiot right now. I was in here getting all set up to get ready to come record and do a full-on situation with y'all. Uh, and we gonna do that. But I just want you to know this camera had me fucked up. I'm not recording on my usual camera because I usually was, I usually was recording on this. Okay, wait, before I show it, don't make fun. I was like, I want to buy me a camera, you know, just start getting the feel of things. And y'all remember that TikTok camera, you know, the one the content creators were using, and it was like nine dollars, ninety dollars, ten dollars on the TikTok. Yeah, I had bought me one a while back. I bought this a while back, and I um was all excited about it, and that's the one I have been using for a little bit, and I know Mike right now is gonna listen to this and is gonna watch this and be like, I've been trying to get you off this camera because it's trash. And yes, you are correct. You've you've been right. We've we've talked about this on multiple occasions, it's fine. So I'm sure he's looking at this and he's like, I need you to use this camera, which right now I'm using my phone because this motherfucker wasn't working. So, anyway, I had it all, I was getting everything all set up, all prepared to record, and it kept acting like it was freezing. Every time I would plug it up and get it all ready, it would freeze, it would not focus, and it would not um work. So now I'm like, fuck this camera. So, and I mean I I set to record because I had to do some promo stuff. I sat down to record and to get everything ready and in order to do this at 5:30. I didn't start getting my shit done until 6 o'clock, 30 minutes later. And that may not seem like a lot of time, but it's a lot of time for me because I was ready and prepared to be able to get this shit done and go about my business. Um but all in all, this little piece of shit, I don't know if it's broken, but I knew it had a timeline and an expiration date. So I'm probably just gonna, you know, go take it to the donation shop and take my little chip out of it and call it a day. But I had already, and on top of that, I had already been looking for a new camera. I was hoping to buy one during the sale, but I didn't find anything. There was no real sale on anything that or the camera that I was looking for, which I'm looking to buy a Canon T eighti, Rebel T8i. Um, I've always wanted a Canon. Canon has kind of always been one of my favorites. Um, just when I have worked with or rented like a camera from a friend, I had a friend, she had a Canon T7i, Rebel T7i, and I did a full photo shoot with it, and I loved it. Um, I also like the colors on a Canon. Anyway, this is not a paid Canon promo. But can if somebody from Canon is listening, call me. Um, yeah, so I, you know, maybe it knew that I was trying to get rid of it and decided to for real like clonk out on me, which is fine, but not fine when I was really here trying to be productive and get my shit together and get it done. Um so there's that. And I'm a I was very irritated, and I really, really was like, I'm over this shit. On top of that, one of the other things I've been I had purchased, I don't remember if I talked about it on this show, but I had purchased this uh KF Concept um filter lens, it's like a$300 and something dollar lens. I bought it a while back, and I thought that would help with the picture. And I love this lens, and I still want to use it. I don't even know like if they have them for phones. Like, can you tell? Like, can you see? What um, I just like the filter. If you're watching, you can see, but if you're not watching, it's anyway. Um, so I still want to be able to use this, so anyway, uh just because I like how it does with the the colors, and I like how it does with the picture, I'm obsessed. But what I also will say, shout out to Apple because the camera on this iPhone 16 Pro Max is very delightful. I'm very impressed. It looks very good, it looks very clear. Uh, Zoom has a nice autofocus. So, like if you're watching, you see it, you see the camera is doing some things, it's moving around, grell. It's you know, it's giving. It's giving. And it's like, you know, let's see if it do it. Let's see. Let's see. Will it do that? Will it move? No, it's not moving. It's not moving, it's okay. It's okay, it's okay, it's okay. All right. Um it looked good though. This camera looked good, my lighting looked good, and I'm very happy that I was able to figure it the fuck out. I tried to plug in my iPad and um try to use that like I've done in the past. You if you are longtime listeners and you know, I used to record the show on my iPad, and that's what I used for a camera for a long for a good amount of the first year of when I recorded this show. So um I tried, but that didn't go so well, uh, which is fine. Taking it all in stride, right? Um I also thought about going live while recording this time uh this episode. Uh we'll talk about a live later, too. But you know, I I'm not there yet. You know, let's talk about it. I'm not there yet. I I see the girlys, they go live all the time. You know, they do their thug thizzle. Um, but I don't know. I I think so when I went to here comes the ramble. When I went to see um my uh astrologist, we talked about this. She talked about vulnerability and how you know me having, I think it was Virgo and Scorpio in my house, in my house of cards, is uh why part of me wants to hide, and then the other parts of me wants to be seen. I think that's how she said it. Um which is very, very true. The Leo in me too always wants to be seen, and then the other part of me is like, I want to be behind the scenes, I don't want to be noticed, but it also depends on the day, right? Like, if I'm walking around looking and feeling like a bad bitch, I want to go out and be seen. But if I'm having the opposite of that, then I don't necessarily want to be seen, and I'm not really necessarily like this is also as I'm talking to y'all, but also staring at myself at the same time. Oh the vanity girl. Um yeah, I'm I'm not there yet. I'm not I I will make it a um thing for when I uh for 2026, I will try and challenge myself to see if I can do one live every time I'm recording an episode at least a month. So y'all can hold me to that. I'm gonna, I'm gonna, you know, I'm gonna write it down um as a goal for myself. One live for one episode every month. Because, you know, if you know I recorded episodes two times a month, even though you ho's got three episodes this month. Actually, I think it's gonna, yeah, it's gonna be three episodes. And y'all didn't even say nothing. But I love that for you. I love that. I love that you got that out of me. It was an accident, it was a mistake, but you benefited from it, girl. I love that for you. Um, but I'm gonna make that a go for myself. I'll do one live episode. I'm not a live episode like that, but I'll go live while recording. I'll probably do it on the tickety talk because you know, the TikTok has been me and TikTok have some love-hate relationship. If you know, you know, you've listened to the show. Um me and her can't seem to get it together, but we're doing what we gotta do. It's fine. I'm not worried about it. Um, but anyway, I digress. So, how y'all doing? You know, how is it going out there? How is the world turning for you? Are we in the holiday spirit? Um, do we have ourselves a good Thanksgiving? Uh, we ready for the Christmas? Uh, what is the tea? I know that, you know, um, some of you girlies love to have your Christmas tree up year-round. So it's been Christmas for you since 2025 or however long, you know, Christmas for the girls and for the folks out there, I think is a way to a little bit of escapism, which is good. I understand because the world is falling apart. It is that it is falling apart. The world is shit right now. Um, but you know, so I get it. I get that. Um, but even if you are not celebrating and you aren't really into it this season, guess what? I understand, and you can always come and listen to this show. We got almost a hundred episodes, grow, that y'all can go back and you can find yourself some fun and happiness and funnies in. You know, just go back and listen, you know. Why not? Um, but I did have a good Thanksgiving. Uh my parents were here. Uh, they came down that when do my parents get here? They got here Tuesday, the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. Um I remember because I went grocery shopping that Saturday, which by the way, I don't know what you how how y'all markets are set up, but I went and bought my greens and all my stuff that Saturday and I put them. I call myself putting them in a tub with some a little bit of water. But you know, I live in Southern California, so it never rains in Southern California, so it was hot, so some of them got a little bruised, but before you start talking about me and making fun of my greens, they was fine. I my mama cleaned them, we got them all chopped up, we got them all good, and they was good. It was good to go. Um so I had some greens, was on my menu. Uh and um my mouth is getting watery, just think about it. I was talking about my parents. My parents got here on Tuesday before Thanksgiving. Got them from the airport, came home. I was off for the rest of the week because I mean, I ain't cooking if I gotta work for the rest of the week and then gotta make Thanksgiving dinner. Go bye. Um, I had already started brining my turkey. I brined started brining my turkey on Tuesday night. Uh, and I brined it with a little water, two bottles of wine, uh, sparkling apple cider, and some seasoning. And uh brined that bad boy up, uh, let it sit there until Thursday morning. I got him in the oven at about 9:30. I was so behind on Thanksgiving. I mean, Uncle Dana was exhausted when I tell you. Um, I was tired. I had been working my ass off. I had been slammed to all kinds of work and projects and all kinds of bullshit. So I was tired. I was ready to go to sleep. And um, I got up on Thanksgiving morning. I think I got up at 7:15. The first thing I put in the oven was the dressing, and then I got my turkey together. No, then I got my greens together, then I got my turkey together, and then I finally went into the oven. Um, and then I baked a bunch of pies, I made some apple pie, I made a pecan pie, I made four sweet potato pies. Um, yeah, we was up in here. I didn't cook. I was up in here whipping it up. It was good. We had a good time though. Um, I'm very thankful that, you know, I'm in a place where my parents can come down and stay at my house. Um, we can hang out, have a yang dang doodle, and um, you know, do some things. I'm very, very, very thankful uh for all my friends and family that came um and all of the things that we were able to do. Um, my husband bought us some matching Christmas outfits where we were able to uh dress in our little Christmas. Oh, I should know. Maybe I'll wear them the day of the live. I might do that. Um, which again, we'll talk about. Um, he bought us these matching Christmas overalls, and we wore them uh when they went to go buy some shoes over the weekend and while we were decorating for Christmas uh on Friday and Saturday. So it was cute. It was like, you know, our own little Hallmark holiday Christmas family situation. Um, and then I dropped the asses off on Monday to go back home so I can be here with my husband and we can enjoy the rest of our Thanksgiving weekend together. Um so that was my Thanksgiving. And I'm very looking forward to the holidays or the rest of the holidays. I'm looking forward to Christmas, and definitely always looking forward to New Year's and New Year's Eve, New Year's Eve and New Year's Day are kind of between Christmas and that are my favorite because it just means newness, rebirth, new year, fresh start, I would hope. Um so I'm looking forward to that. And um I'm also looking forward to just, you know, hanging out with the gross and having some drinks for New Year's Eve, and on Christmas having some brunch, um and making a little small pot of gumbo. So it's gonna be a good time. Um so if you're watching this, are you noticing anything? Are you getting into anything? How's this background? How's this setup? This is not a filter, you know. We I I love to filter, and you know, I love to um virtual background. I say I mean I love to use a virtual virtual background, and I love to try and you know fool y'all to think I was somewhere else. But I finally started working on the my office slash content space slash also where my closet is. So it's coming together, y'all. I don't know if you know, if you're watching, then you can clearly see. Um it was zoom in. It was zoom in. I yawned, I'm sorry. Um I know it took me some time. It took some time to start getting this room together. Um for a lot of reasons, mostly because um I at one point obviously wasn't the only person uh obviously wasn't the only person that was um on the show and doing this show. So I was trying as I the goal we were operating and trying to make sure we both were incorporated in what we're gonna do with the plans for this room. Um even though it is my house, but it was not right. We're both on the show if we're, you know, you we both have to make the decision. Um and we couldn't come to a decision. And then once things changed, I started. Still couldn't come to a decision. And then I finally one night was drinking some wine and started scrolling through Amazon and was like, um, okay, because at first I wanted to paint the room, and then I was like, I don't necessarily want to paint, I would love some cool wallpaper. So I found some cool wallpaper. So that's the green crushed velvet wall behind me where the mantle was. If you remember, the mantle was on this other on this wall right here, where it's actually I did paint it. I painted this pretty teal color that's also the same color as the mantle. Um, and then I did some uh peel and stick tiles here. As you can see, I did a couple of those. I don't like them, I don't recommend um because they don't really stick well. I've had to, but but also the package does say if the surface isn't flat, then they're not gonna stick that well. I had to patch up some holes in the wall. So um, you know, it got a little murky, but they're fine now. You know, they're sticking as much, is they're sticking pretty well now. Um, and it's good. Also got me a new little bookshelf back there. You can see my uh coffee table books, my Tom Ford. You can see my diploma up there. There's some uh all my designer books are there, everything. Like the goal was to create like an artsy content space different from what I see on um, you know, all the other girls and what they do. Uh, and I wanted it to be my own. Uh so I still have a lot to do. Uh I have some artwork. I have the picture of Paris right there. Um, I'm gonna I need to tile my mantle. I have tile that I need to do. So I'm gonna do that. And um gonna put a bunch of artwork up. I've have been, you know, seeing some art. I probably will have some artists on the show that of the art that I put on the wall. Um, yeah, so I'm excited. I like the way it's going. Uh, it's giving new setup, new vibes, new energy. It's, you know, it's giving. It's it's I'm really, really, really excited about it. And um I can't wait um to finish it. Um as we talk about, you know, the uh the room and the changes, I also have been reflecting on um when I came back to do the show back in July when I came back from Fiji. Or actually, that wasn't July. I recorded in July and released it in August. When I came back from Fiji, I've been reflecting on that, just where I was mentally, what headspace I was in. I had my year in um uh therapy appointment with my therapist. And um we talked about, you know, just where I was when I started therapy, which was some time ago, but also just mentally where I was right before I went on vacation. It was ever things were very heavy for me. Um and obviously this show was a very, very heavy topic for me uh because I was nervous about doing it by myself, uh, which is not really where I am now. Um I look at this now as kind of my diary of uh things, all the things. Um, if you've been listening, if you know, you know that I will ramble. I can ramble, I will pause. You'll probably hear me go on long pauses. I will yawn. I'm sorry if I'm yawning. I'm just tired. I have a full-time job. Until this starts to go into a place where y'all will let me create content for you and you motherfuckers will pay me. I gotta do both. Um, but I'm not in that space anymore. I'm definitely in a much more content space. Um, I am happy to continue to create the content, create the show, and I also am excited to do it about myself because I can do it in the way that I want to do it and um create the episodes that I want to create, right? So I still have I have episodes that I haven't even released yet. So I'm excited for 2026. Um, I have more ideas and things that I am planning to bring to you. Um, but I just my point in saying all that is just to say thank you for coming along this journey with me. Continue to listen and continue to support. And uh shout out to you who've been listening to the beginning. Uh, I sat and talked to a young lady for um, she's a friend of or the friends of ours. Um, and she was telling me how, you know, how much she's been enjoying the content and the the show and you know, giving ideas on what we could talk about, which is things that I asked for, you know, please, please continue to share ideas. Please feel free to reach out. I'm always down to uh create um an episode and talk about things that y'all want to hear about. So um thank you, thank you for listening, and thank you for continuing to support. And thank you for um always, always uh engaging. Uh a couple of episodes have been doing really, really well. A couple of episodes, recent episodes have been doing well, which then has brought in new people to listen, which has made older episodes do well. So I'm hoping and manifesting that that continues to happen and continues to come our way. Um, and I'm very, very excited for what's to come uh with the the show. With all of that being said, this week we about to get into some tea. It is a lot of shit going on in the world. I have quite a few areas in which I want to touch on. Um for to be exact. Uh, we're gonna have some conversations and we're gonna talk about some things. Um, and I'm very excited to. I'm not very excited because these are some heavy topics. We're gonna talk about some heavy stuff, but a little heavy, some light. It depends on how you take it. Um, but we're gonna get into some things, and I'm very happy to be here to talk about them with y'all. So uh let's take a quick break and we'll be right back. Bye. Hey y'all, I wanted to let you know that we are going live on Friday, December the 19th. That's right, the Hello Cheese May podcast. We'll be having our virtual, our annual virtual live event on Friday, December 19th. I hope to see you there. We're getting started at 4:30 p.m. Pacific Standard Time and that's 7:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. We're gonna be talking about trends, we're gonna be talking about what we're leaving in 2025 and what we're taking with us into 2026, and we're gonna have ourselves a Yang Dang Doodle. I hope to see you there. Bye. And we are back. So uh before we jump into what we are going to be discussing today, I just want to offer a trigger warning. Uh, we will be discussing some uh things about sexual harassment and assault as well as HIV and AIDS. Um, so if you are have any sensitivities or if you have anything that can be triggering that I may be talking about around those topics, um, I just want to offer a trigger warning and let you know that this would be the time to pause and skip to the end because that's where the shit's gonna get a little bit more lighter. Um, but let's carry on. So, my first topic I wanted to talk about was World's AIDS Day uh and the US and how they decided not to recognize it. Uh, World AIDS Day had been recognized globally since 1988, and the first ever International Health Day, uh, it was in 1988. Uh, it was created for to create awareness about HIV and AIDS and to support people living with HIV in honor of the lives lost, which uh you if you know, you know that thousands of people's lives are lost during the AIDS epidemic in the 80s, and to be able to push the governments to take action. Uh, even with its uh complicated history in the US, um, it's always been acknowledged. Um, even me being born in the 90s, I remember World AIDS Day being a very big thing uh annually, as um uh when I was growing up and coming up, uh I remember it being recognized on MTV. I remember it being recognized on the news. Every news channel will recognize it. Um and I also remember it would be recognized um uh sometimes in some of the schools that I was going to. Um this year, the United States uh government didn't release a statement, they didn't do a proclamation or formal recognition. Um and the silence was clearly louder than anything. Um, a lot of people spoke out about it. Uh, there some of your favorite creators, uh, Andy Kohan did a full segment on it. And um a lot of people in the LGBTQIA plus community, you know, this is just another way that we've been slighted when it comes to the US government and the world uh not recognizing something that has tremendously hit our community. Um so I just wanted to talk a little bit about that. And um, you know, the thing that irks me the most is that when it comes to the things that matter and things that have um taken people out of this world or taken people away from their families, um, the US picks and chooses what they want to show and what they don't want to show and what they want to talk about and what they don't want to talk about, which is nothing new, right? But not speaking uh, not um acknowledging something that has had such a huge impact on people's lives is crazy to me. Um, we are out here showing uh ice uh scrapping up people every single day. We have it all plastered on the internet, we have it plastered all over social media, but we can't talk about how the history of a community that was tragically um that has been tragically that has that this has tragically affected. Uh, and here's why it matters. Black Americans make up a 13% of the population, but also 40% of new HIV diagnoses. Latino communities experience HIV at more than twice the rate of white Americans, and young black gay men remain one of the most vulnerable groups in the country. Especially when we're talking about our uh young black men who are uh in religious families who wouldn't accept them if they were gay. So, you know, they get HIV, they don't feel not only can they not feel like feel comfortable to come out to their family, they also now have this uh this what people feel like is a death sentence, and they can't talk about it with anybody. So now they have no no more connection and no more community. Um when we pull back the visibility and we don't talk about and we don't acknowledge, uh the stigma continues to grow, funding for prevention continues to lessen, and uh public awareness continues to drop, right? Um we already know that over the years the research that has been done about HIV and AIDS has been very has been very important. But doing something like this definitely um in my eyes, and I'm sure in others of the community eyes makes us feel like well, a nice fuck you to the gay community because we don't give a fuck about y'all. So to that, I say y'all fuck y'all too. How about that? Um I've I think when I don't I try not to watch a lot of news. So when shit like this happens, I retreat into even more of not wanting to watch the news or even more not wanting to pay attention to what's going on in the news. But um I've known people with HIV, and I have um I have friends who have HIV, so to know that we're not gonna talk about and we're not going to um recognize such an epidemic that continues to be an issue um is just bullshit to me. Um but for those of you that support the community, uh thank you. And um thank you for you know speaking up, thank you for speaking out, and uh these motherfuckers can hold us down and there's that. Moving on. So shout out to my beautiful wine glass. Um I am drinking Hoover and Lee's red wine blend. It's delicious. Um it's aged in a whiskey barrel. And you can smell like some of the oak. That's the rambling. I like the you know why too. But um that rambling gets you together. Like one glass of those, and you might you might see me. Um so Netflix has a new documentary out called The Reckoning of Sean Combs. And I've watched all four episodes. Uh if you didn't know, the reckoning was also the same. Um it was also a reckoning of R. Kelly. They did one of two. Um, and this one was of Sean Combs, P. Diddy Puff Daddy, Daddy Love, Daddy Light. Um and all four episodes are out. And it came out on December 2nd. And it was intense, I have to tell you. It was very, very intense. Um covering quite a lot. It was covered um how he developed his business, how he started to become famous, uh, the sexual misconduct that he has that he was being charged with with all the different uh charges. I believe it said it got up to a hundred plus um charges, or I'm sorry, um uh uh uh uh people have filed a hundred plus lawsuits against him and then 77 um once they s you know started to get down to it, uh it talked about the freak-offs, the industry uh like silencing, you know, because we we all know that man paid a lot of people off. Uh and then it also talked about, you know, the other racketeering and legal trouble with the with um the business of uh Bad Boy Entertainment. Um it was crazy. I think the way they set up the documentary really told a story of how Diddy got his claim to fame, where he started, and then where he is now. Uh I was born in 1990, so a lot of it from the beginning, I had obviously no clue about. And then as it got on, I knew about all of it, the rest of it. Um one of the big highlights was the uh the concert that he was having at a school. Um, and they ended up bum rushing it. Uh, this was and Dougie Fresh was supposed to come and perform at this school. Um the the tickets were, I think one person they were saying it was like$12. Uh people, some people didn't have that, or they wasn't gonna pay it, or it had sold out. And they ended up bum rushing the doors. And this led to quite a few kids getting trampled. I think they said nine people got trampled and died. Um, and this was his claim to fame. This is how he became famous after that, which is crazy. Um because to me, in retrospect, when I think about um someone getting famous because of the death of others and people being hurt and creating chaos, uh that to me equals kind of a little bit of a psychopath. And I'm saying kind of to be nice, but it's giving psycho. Um, and you know, as you kind of go through this documentary and as you see uh the things develop and see the things happen, um, it your boy is crazy, and it's also not just him, it is the drugs too, right? So as you also go through uh the documentary and you um start hearing from like people that worked for him. So uh for instance, his um I don't remember his name, but the guy who kept uh his budget, who did all his budgeting, who essentially helped him start Bad Boy Entertainment, um, you know, talked a lot about like how close he worked with him. He talked about um seeing him Diddy Slap and Choke His Motor. Uh even they flashback to an interview with Denny, Diddy, and when he was on stage uh having an interview, I can't I can't remember if it was Ellen or um it was another guy. Anyway, and you know she was sharing the work that she used to do and she said she used to work at the nightclubs and it was almost like the fake the look on his face was so visceral and like he wanted to jump up out of his seat and like take her fucking face off. It was crazy to me to see um to see that I don't know that I've ever or could ever uh look at my mother like that or my parents in general um but he definitely had that in him to put his hands on women at a young age which they talk about as well in the documentary and he's always had it in him to uh harm in in people's lives um because I want to be clear here uh that I truly do feel especially from watching this documentary that he has something to do with killing Tupac Big again killed the obviously that girl who got her nose shot off in that club I think it was back in uh the 90s um and then shine going to prison for it um some boy they shot when Lil Rod uh was doing the love album off the grid album um and then uh Tupackin shot before he actually got shot and killed um I this documentary did a very good job of lining that up and like making it plain um which was scary shocking and also like wow like you've you've let this man do this for all of his career that's crazy like power really can get you money and power can really get you whatever you asked for like it I was stunned uh this was a very it was a very shocking documentary um you also know that the documentary is uh executively produced by 50 cent who has been known to not can't stand ditching uh and one of an article that you know he was in he said um which was quoted if I didn't say anything then it would be felt that we condone this behavior and I felt like I needed to put it out there because I don't convert condone this behavior I would believe what he's saying I do but I would I wouldn't felt like I didn't necessarily believe if what he was saying if I didn't know for a fact that he hated he hates Daddy he can't stand that man so as far as I'm concerned yeah you you you put this you did this documentary because for sure yes you you want to be clear that you don't condone the behavior but I also feel like you did it because you can't stand this man so now not only can do you not can you not stand this man you also want to make sure that the world knows that how much of a monster he is and how much of a piece of shit he is because he is that too um they also covered a lot of the I'm I was shocked by this that they even had the prostitute the guy who the sex worker they um that Cassie and Diddy would have these uh freak off sessions with um on which we find out they have them March 9th annually which is also allegedly the day that um that biggie was shot and killed and died which to me is a hell of a way to celebrate someone's death right like um you can't just go take his the gray some flowers to the grave we can't you know pour some out for the homies we can't um send a card to maybe his mother which I'm sure she doesn't want it because I think it's clear that she can't stand that nigga either um I I'm I I think there was other ways we could definitely celebrate our best friend that died um without calling a sex worker and having outrageous sex with him and my girlfriend I don't know it it just doesn't make sense to me um and then on top of that you know maybe he feels like he should celebrate because he didn't actually pay for Biggie's funeral either biggie paid for Biggie's funeral which he sent him the invoice for I don't know it does it's not giving friend energy to me you know I think um that was one of the other things that started to come up that came up in this documentary is that Diddy never and has never wanted anybody to be bigger than him and always felt like if there was somebody in the picture that he didn't want in the picture he had to take them out which I think was an overarching theme for all the people that he had in his life that he um that he either did something really fucked up to or that he ended that somehow ended up being dead around him uh you know they also talked about how um he never really had any talent all the people around him had talent uh he wasn't you know uh the best of rappers uh which I mean he's still not a good rapper um but the people around him helped him and made helped him make the music that he wanted to make and help him get what he wanted to get from uh the music creations that he and that he has now today right because if you if you know diddy and you know bad boy you know all the songs did he was on he was not on there by himself it was always somebody else on there recording with him um it also talked a lot about um his assistant Capricorn uh who talked about her being kid herself being kidnapped um and with a gun because she was hanging out with Cassie had let Cassie go on a her Cassie and Kid Cuddy had gone on a hike Cassie and Kit Cuddy had something going on to where apparently they allegedly may or may not have had sex with each other uh and then Diddy found out took Cap went to Kid Cuddy's house was about to kill him and uh told her to tell Cassie if she don't bring him Kid Cuddy she ain't going Cap ain't going back home and Cassie like he with me he's my man um and she was you know torn up about it like she was crying and a lot of people don't believe it I very much so got the sense that the jury didn't believe what she was saying which is a whole other thing that we'll get to with the jury um I also got the sense that I don't understand what they don't what what they I couldn't I couldn't grasp the st how people were either telling these stories on the stand or if they didn't get a good sense of the people that wanted to share their stories or a lot of people didn't get to I I couldn't really gr I didn't I either I can't remember or what but I couldn't really connect how it was that the jury made the decision they made right after hearing from Cassie after hearing from his assistant and then um I'm assuming then as I'm working this out of my brain that a lot of the people that did interviews didn't end up talking on the stand or they did I don't know I also didn't really keep up with the case once it went to trial because again as much as I like to talk about the drama I also don't like to pay at I don't like pay attention to a lot of it sometimes so here we are um but yeah it was a lot of themes uh and you know they definitely talked about Cassie they uh talked they showed that video numerous of times of him dragging her down that hotel hallway um and they um they they covered you know all of their relationship even how it overlapped with uh with Kim Porter and um Kim Porter him being with Kim Porter having the kids that he had with her then you know Cassie being his girlfriend and how everybody essentially around him was just like you know Kim Porter is the wifey and this is uh this is his no they say Kim Porter is the wife she's wifey talking about Cassie which is crazy to me um but again you got money you you got fame not my life um they also talked about you know they talked about his drug usage and how he got to being using drugs I love this close up um because they they did say you know at one point Diddy didn't drink he definitely didn't do no drugs um they said something had happened to his wrist where he had to take painkillers and they think they were saying essentially that from then that's when the drug usage usage and all the alcohol started and then kind of the the spin out of all the different things like the the colorful um ketamine pills and crushing it up and I'm sure he's snorting it and um the cocaine the ecstasy pills uh even the sex worker said that um the the reason that Cassie and Diddy would be able to have sex for three days straight was off ecstasy and they coached him in how to take ecstasy uh even the ketamine and the baby oil which is still sending me because I'm still trying to figure out what my lord are we gonna do with the ketamine and the drugs in the baby oil does it sink into your skin or or when you put it in one of your orfices because it can go into your bloodstream and then we hide and you know we blowing things open we blowing our holes open and things like that I and then the astroglide is it me or I just feel like astroglide is not the top lubricant of the year or ever I've never liked astroglide but that's also I don't like that water based shit. I well now I have to use it because I be having allergic reactions but I digress um I yeah the Astroglide sends me I and then I I'm again confused what when we put the drugs in the baby oil what is it gonna do to these people I I don't know it's above me uh but back to the jurors um I have a state I hear for here so in May 2025 Combs was acquitted of two charges and found guilty for two others and it appears as though members of the jury including two who spoke to Stapleton for the series um all still unsure so the two juries was a it was a black woman and I would say a Pakistanian guy who was on the jury um the guy didn't even know who Diddy was obviously the black girl did um and it says are still unsure of how they feel about the mogul and his actions which I could get right it was it in them sitting there and talking on screen it did give like I'm still kind of unsure the decision we made um and even the girl the first thing she said when it said not when they had made a decision about not guilty she was like oh shit like this is about to be an issue but um yeah of course they went through it um where does it say in uh all unsure of how they feel about the mogul and its actions and it says in quote I know the jury didn't believe anything that former combs employee Capricorn Clark argues so this is what I was talking about earlier was when they were saying essentially they didn't believe that he had kidnapped her they she and she said she was she she was very emotional when she was telling the story and she um she was very clear and very descriptive about everything that happened but they for some reason didn't believe her uh it's hard to believe is what they said and one of the jurors corroborates um another juror alleges that a lot of members of the jury took a liking to Combs which not surprised they were starstruck not surprised uh one of the jurors adds that because many of these events took place so long ago the jury started to doubt key witnesses they did mention that in the documentary um so witnesses like Clark and Cassie um were they were like this took place so long ago that they started to question how true the information was and the story was that they were telling uh it's a howling and frustrated part of the viewing experience difficult to balance with the the obvious trauma that Clark relives in recounting her time at the trial but it gets at gets at how and why the decisions that were made happened yeah I mean it the documentary was was a was a wild ride uh to say the least um it was crazy to to see back like all those BT moments the Source Award moments um uh I think like some MTV award moments when he came out after Biggie died um and you know knowing all of what he did to unpromote uh Biggie's new album to promote his instead uh and to you know essentially get himself in the limelight and again um putting himself at the forefront making him more famous in the light of someone who died which is also another theme throughout the documentary when I mentioned that um his claim to fame was the fact that all these kids got killed at this concert and that is like a recurring uh thing and theme through uh this series um all in all if you have not seen it uh I will go watch it you know it's full of information it's full of it can be triggering a little bit I'm not gonna lie to you um even you know the stories of rape and being drugged uh Aubrey O'Day was in the documentary uh and even um uh Camila from Dirty Money Diddy Dirty Money I'm I may have said her name wrong but uh she was there too uh they talked about um the lawsuit that Don filed essentially stating that she was drugged uh and you know he had been doing unappropriate things to her and Don while they were drugged and she was crying she's like I I don't have any recollection of any of this uh same thing about Aubrey somebody had reached out to Aubrey told her that she saw her getting uh sexually assaulted by him while she was under the influence and she said the same thing. I have no idea what she's talking about. And I don't know what's scarier when thinking about that is it somebody telling you you were sexually assaulted and they saw you under the influence or you knowing it happening and seeing it happen while it's happening yeah I don't know but on that note we're gonna take a small break and then we will be right back. And we are back. So we about to get into uh some housewife shit. Uh so I know y'all been watching Housewives of Potomac. And um we are on which episode I see here we go. Here I go. Starting to lie into y'all. Because I don't know which episode of Housewives we are on uh currently. Let's see if we can find out real quick. While I'm doing that, um, so we are on we I know y'all been watching the Housewives of Potomac, and um I I love Housewives of Potomac, I do. I just you know what's right to Grime migraine with him is uh I'm pretty sure it's ten episodes out right now. It don't fucking matter. Anyway, um I know y'all been watching the Housewives of Potomac, and we are finally at the part where uh Monique, this whole Stacey Monique and Chris Samuels thing has come up. Uh it started um back where they were at Pride, um and Ashley oh Ashley, she wanted to be she wanted to be a dude so bad. Ashley um invited Monique, and we get to see Monique come back, which gorgeous down. Like I what I love the most about Monique right now is that um I love the locks. I love that she ain't wearing no fucking wig. And I love that it seems like she's just it seems like she's just being herself, and um it is very refreshing to see her, which is something that uh Giselle talks about hearing her talk about her marriage and seeing her outside of her marriage and talking about um uh uh just the experiences that she had and being very honest and straightforward and truthful about it, I feel like is probably what's refreshing to Giselle and especially and Wendy and Ashley since they were there when she was on the season what was on the show before. Um so you know it I it shows. And she's not drinking, so she's completely sober. I on this on the show. I don't know, she's drinking outside of the show. That's not my business. I don't know, she's still smoking her cigars that she likes to smoke, because you know the the girl used to love to smoke on a cigar. Um, but she's back and she looks great. I know she smells good, she be putting on almond oils and her essential oils, and I love it. I'm here for all of it. Um, but we've gotten to that part of the show where Monique is here. And um we've also saw this character Cookie come up in the show a couple of times who uh Cookie was in or is friends with Karen. Uh while Karen has been friends with Karen. And since Karen at the time of recording is in jail, uh Cookie has been coming around and is has seeming to be close friends with Giselle uh and you know, parts of the other group, which is fine. Live y'all life. Um so this whole Chris Samuels thing with Stacy, Stacy, uh, they're alleging that Stacy went on a date and has been dating Chris Samuels, and is had and they was asking her while they were on the trip uh if she's had sex with him and um all the things, and Stacy has been very clear that she is back with her husband, also, uh, and they are trying to work it out. Here is my thing. Why do we care? Because Monique has not been on this show for the greater part of three years, four years, and as far as I was concerned, but that's also because as I said earlier in the show, I pay attention to social media, I be watching shit on social media, I watch these shows, but at some point I just be like, I don't give a fuck about none of that, and I stopped paying attention to all of it. As far as I'm concerned, Ashley, Giselle, and none of them give a fuck about Monique, especially when it came down to when she got into that fight with uh Candace. They all acted like this bitch was a devil with three heads and they could not fuck with her. So I am very confused what changed. And clearly time has passed. Clearly, Monique is a new girl, and she feels like she's you know having a whole new experience, and I get all of that, but them two fake bitch, them two bitches, they never been that uh never been that real or genuine about the shit and the how they act and trick people. So I'm very confused as to why do we give a fuck that Stacey may or may not have gone on date on a date with Chris Samuels, Chris Heavyfoot ass Chris Samuels. Like, who why do we give a fuck? He that nigga not even fine, he don't even look good. Like, let that be clearly she wanted if she did go on this date, she wanted to go on a date with that nigga, and she did and or did not. Who gives a fuck about Chris Samuels? Clearly, Monique don't. She dropped all 300 of the pounds, as she said when she came on. I don't understand why we care. I really, I just really just don't. Um, and I feel like it was a way to um give them something to talk about this season. Instead, we could have talked, we could, I would be happy with if we would have talked more about dating, like Giselle and Ashley, who what their dating life is like. That could have been those two storylines. Stacy could have dived a little bit deeper in this whatever the fuck relationship, marriage, whatever situation that she's in, that she's claiming to be, she's claiming so hard to have been divorced, and now they're working it out after she's only been on the show and been divorced for maybe less than a year. I I don't know. Um I I just I don't know why. I don't know why. It just it's you start to lose me. You're starting to lose me when you're making up reasons or you're making up shit to create a storyline. Like that is really why I matter of fact, if my little brother is listening to this andor watching this, this is why I stop and I stop watching Housewives at some point. This is why I don't watch some of them bitches that come out with on these housewives shows, is because we're creating storylines instead of just living your real life for reality TV. And I understand some of it is scripted, I understand some of it is made up, I understand it's produced, I get all of that, but some shit you just can't make up all the fucking time, like it's just unnecessary, and then you have to be made up to be the liar, then you have to be made up to be the person who creates stories, then you have to like it's just it's too much. Like, why are we doing this? And then we have the Kay and Stacy beef, which I also don't really understand. Um, because Kay feels like Stacy is a liar, she feels like she's lying about everything, she feels like she's fake. And I'm like, the bitch used to work for Q QVC. They all sound fake. All of them hoes. They had to they had to make you believe you was gonna buy this product and that it was an amazing product. And she still talks like she's on QVC. Duh, she's trying to sell you something, and it's her story, which apparently it's a lie. I I just I don't get the I I wish when Kiarna first appeared, she seemed like a brush of fresh, a breath of fresh air. She seemed very cool, very refreshing, and I love that for her. I like I loved that about her. But then she got knocked upside her head, and now she's you know, they gave her uh I don't know what potomakers get the diamond or a flute. Um, but now she is, I just feel like creating this space. She's made it very awkward, or and she didn't make it very awkward, I won't say that, but it is now very awkward with her and Wendy. You could tell that with when they were at that dinner where um with uh Monique, Stacy, and Ashley. My girl was she Kay was ducking like a bobblehead and taking all these deep breaths, and just like, you know, like it just was so intense for her to sit there and record with her. And I'm just like, you bitches don't need to have this much heat against each other if you hoes will just communicate and stop making fake relationships, you know. Take a card out of the Bravo Girls book, not the Bravo's girls, I'm sorry. I've had some wine. Take a card from the Beverly Hills Girls, you know. You know that at some point Dore and Kyle were friends, and at some point Kyle and Erica are friends and are still friends. You can tell that. Um because you can tell that Kyle and or the rest of those two girls have some things that they've done together, they've talked about together, they've been in cohort. And when I say take a car from a book, I just mean also it don't gotta be this deep either, you know, but I'm biased because I like Kyle and the Beverly Hills house guys. Shoot me. Um I also don't understand this whole thing between uh Angel and Wendy. Angel trying to hold Wendy accountable for saying that she's a catfish when Wendy wasn't even the one who said it, it was Giselle. She literally said, I quote, I felt like you were catfishing me because I didn't know who you were in these pictures, which was disrespectful as fuck, by the way. Because bitch, I just had a baby. I'm still swollen. My titties are to my neck. There are they are full, girl. Like, what do you mean you don't recognize me? I clearly have gained weight. And for Giselle, big thick legged ass, who always looked like her ankles are swollen. I am like, girl, you are the last one to talk about catfish. But when a pretty bitch got pretty bitch privilege, they be the they be the first dog to bark. And I mean, it's I I I would have sat at their table and got Giselle together if I if that was me. It'd have been no way that you would have been telling me I catfished you, bitch, because especially when my face has been, you know, the brunt the the greatest part of my job all my life. I clearly just had a fucking baby, which I told you that. And I'm, you know, Angel likes to pretend like she knows how to nuck, but she don't book. But I'd have been all over Giselle's ass like white on rice, because but that's just the type of bitch I am. Um I just, you know, I think that it really just needs to uh that angel. I I don't think she's good for the show. I don't think she should stay. Um but that uh what's that other girl name? Tia. I like her. She can stay. She's funny. She's funny, she has a good sense of humor, she can ban, she has good banter, she gets on. I like her. I'm here for Tia. And I hope that's her name because um it's gonna be real awkward. Y'all know who I'm talking about, the other Nigerian princess with the English accent. Her. Um, yeah, I just, you know, we don't care about Chris Samuels. And clearly Monique doesn't either. I think that's why she keeps, um, she keeps saying, like, you know, just tell me what happened. I don't, you know, and that's why she, I think, you know, keeps brushing it off as well. Because I don't think she really gives a fuck, and neither does the rest of us. Um, I hope Wendy and Kiarna somehow patch up this whole situation. I have been enjoying the Giselle and Wendy back and forth. That's kind of funny because I feel like Wendy and Giselle banter now and how they deal with each other is how Giselle and Karen banter and deal with one another. So I think that's pretty cool. Um, I don't think they I don't need them to be friends, I don't need them to be buddy buddy like that. I think we're I'm good with how they are if they keep that up, and I think it'll be fun and funny uh for as long as the franchises last. I think that's good. From one housewife land to another, let's move on down to Housewives of Atlanta, uh, where we have Candy Boris has announced her divorce uh with Todd Boris. Um it's funny because I was listening to the read, and he was like, What's K Feerie was like, What's Todd's last name? But it is Boris. Um, so can't oh, it's Tucker. Uh Candy has released the news that her and Todd are getting a divorce. Um they dro they dropped an official statement, uh, and Candy said it was her who moved forward with the divorce. Uh, they had been working towards it for some time. Um, and it had they have been living separate for some time, and it had been on the horizon. Uh, and they finally released a statement. They didn't do y'all's uh ISO press release statements on Instagram or Apple press release uh statements like y'all like to do. Um, but she did make a statement, which she did post uh something on uh Instagram as of recently actually, and stated um just that she's had been going through it, um, which you know, not surprised, not um, and not faulting for her for it either. Candy is rich, she has a lot of businesses, she likes to go get her money, and she is doing her thing. I think that do I think this has been on the horizon? I can't say that because I don't know. I'm not in their marriage every day, I only see what I see on TV, and um but I do feel like they do struggle, they did struggle or was struggling, um, because they both owned businesses, they both had dreams. You know, there was always speculation that Candy was fronting a lot of some of the dreams and things that Todd wanted to do and what he was doing. Um and you know, coupled with that, coupled with all the shit that would happen with Mama Joyce and how she would talk, she would talk about that man like a dog and treat him like he was shit off the street. Um it just it's a lot to deal with and and have dealt with it for 11 years between the both of them. They have beautiful children. Um it's it's a lot, and and I'm very sad that it had come to this for for them because I feel like they were a cute couple. Their love story was cute, everything about them was cute. Um, but you know, when fame and fans and family starts to get involved, that's when shit starts to get murky. Okay. Um, and I can tell you that from experience. Okay. Um about the family getting mixed in part. I'm not famous. It's only a couple of people, a couple of y'all that listen to this show. Um But here's the thing about divorce. And I don't know this, but I can only see. You know, sometimes it can be a door that opens to something else. Um I d people say that. That relationships are where you uh go to grow. And I think that is definitely for sure when it comes to long-term relationships and marriages. Um, so I'm sure they both did a great deal of growing with each other, um, getting to know, you know, what works, what doesn't work, unfortunately. Um, and you know, as I have said here before, marriage is a choice that you have to make every day. If you wake up one day and you feel like you can't choose this person or this marriage, then that is when it's time to walk away. And it sounds like that's what happened. Um, so I'm I think I'm interested to see what this means, what this looks like for her and her businesses, and uh if she's gonna come back to re uh to Real Housewives of Atlanta. Um, because you know we love Candy on Real Housewives of Atlanta. I think Candy has consistently and always been a breath of fresh air on Atlanta because she's she they've she's had a confrontation, but she's been non-confrontational, if that makes sense, at the same time. And she's fun, and she's the easy housewife to work with, and she um is very open and honest. Um, and I think it also helps that she doesn't really drink. Uh so I think that if she came back, I think they would definitely get some of them numbers back from Housewives of Atlanta. Um, because right now I don't know what it's gonna look like this next season, especially with Kay Michelle, Drew Sidora, and um I'm just I watched K Michelle on uh Love and Hip Hop when she was on it.
SPEAKER_03:I mean, it was what it was.
SPEAKER_01:So um I'm interested to see where it goes, see what happens with Candy. Um I truly enjoy, you know, having her and seeing her on TV. I love and and she's a very successful woman, so I'm sure she will be fine. Sad for Todd, but I you know there I I don't foresee them not being in each other's lives. They have kids together, so I'm sure that will be fine as well. But anyway, um we are going to take our final break, and I'll be back to wrap up the show. Bye. Hey y'all, if you like what you heard, make sure you join the conversation. We always say to make sure to like, comment, and subscribe, and we definitely want you to do that. But also, we would love if you would join in with us. There's a link in the description where you can actually send us messages. You can also make sure to tag us on social media, put up your favorite clips of the show, and then tag us, and we will repost them on our stories. That is the best way to get in communicate communication or community with us, and we would love to see y'all interact with the content. Anyway, thank you for following us and thank you for listening, and we'll see you back for the remainder of the show. Bye. And we are back. So we are going to wrap up the show with uh two cards that I pulled, of course. Uh, I pulled one was the gossip card. See if it will focus. Can't you see it? Yes, one was the gossip card, and it is the photoshopped card, and then I also pulled an oracle card, and it is the journey card. Two very different cards, but the information that comes up about them both um actually is pretty interesting. Uh, so the photoshopped card, it uh talks about fake perception, uh, fake perfection, and then like artificial beauty. Uh it calls out polished, filtered, curated version of life. Uh, the parts you've been trying to touch up, hide, or control um and present as perfect. Uh it signals feeling pressure to look perfect or have it all together, uh, playing a role for others, for others' comfort. So, you know, putting on for people, uh, minimizing your truth so it looks more uh palatable for folks. So if you are trying to um, you know, put makeup on it, clean it all up for other people, you know, that's something to think about. Um it essentially it's an illusion card, right? Like what are you trying to make sure that people don't see about you? And what is it that you're trying to hide or trying to cover up? Uh it's it's that mask, right? Um, but it's not it's not trying to put a shame on you for doing that. Um, it's revealing that something in your life has been uh airbrushed to the point of uh suffocation. So it's actually a card, you know, showing that you are you're tired of actually hiding it. Uh you are actually at a place to where, you know, you're probably trying to figure out what it is that you can do to uh kind of come out, so to speak. Uh the journey card um is kind of the wonder with divine courage, where you wonder with divine courage and ignite your passion. So this card is about being raw, uh being messy, uh, and having real, making real movements. So having a new chapter, so travel, exploration, stepping into unfamiliar territory, which you know kind of plays with the idea of uncovering and coming out and showing the real you. Um the story that both of these cards tell together is you know one of you can't be photoshopped. Uh, you can't, you can't take, you can you can't take the photoshopped version of yourself onto this next journey, right? So if you're continuing to cover up, you're continuing to uh put that mask on, if you want to move into this next journey, you have to remove that mask and to go into this next journey. Uh it require the new chapter requires you to be real, it requires you to uh be one with the texture and the feelings and uh the newness. Um, it's not perfect. It wants you to kind of hone in on that, and um, it's not edited, and um it wants you to hone in on that as well. And it's really just all about dropping the filters, uh leaving behind the pressure uh to look right, to look good, to put this mask on, and to be this perfect person. Uh, it's not um it's not about that. Uh and it's saying that your soul is craving an adventure that cannot be staged and it cannot be masked. So um it's something to think about, you know. Uh if you are looking to step into something that's more creative, more emotional, you're looking for that new chapter, you're looking to be more vulnerable, as I talked about vulnerability at the top of this episode. Um, these two cards very much so are saying that um it's time to step into that journey. And in order to do that, you have to take the mask off at the end of the day. Um, so that's something to think about and to take into uh the rest of the year as you walk into the new year and as we um close out these last couple of weeks of 2025. Um before I close out the show, I definitely want to let you all know and promote that we will be having a live, our annual live show. If you've been listening to the show and watching for some time, you know, just about every uh year end we do a live episode where we talk about trends, we get some holiday cocktails together, and we have ourselves a nice little key. Uh so we will be going live on Friday, December 19th at 4:30 Pacific Standard Time and uh 7:30 Eastern uh Standard Time. And if you want to come a little early to join in on some fun, uh, I will have some surprises for this live show. So make sure you bring uh your favorite holiday cocktail and yourself and be playing it in the seats or seats wherever you are uh so that you can enjoy the show. Um it's gonna be fun, and I'm looking forward to it. And uh I have some good things up my sleeve for that episode. Uh lastly, I want to shout out that this episode is coming out on an anniversary of a very near and dear cousin of mine that passed away over a decade ago from uh cancer. Uh, it's still something that um is very live and lives uh very deep uh within my family and myself. Um I actually have a picture of her right next to me. Uh and I just want to recognize um that we love you, we miss you, uh, Chloe, and we and hopefully you are resting in peace as um your anniversary is coming up. And in light of saying that, uh the next day is actually her great her niece's birthday. So happy birthday, Lonnie. Uh, if you listen to the show, I'm not sure that you do. But um lastly, shout out to y'all. Thank you for listening and happy holidays, and we'll see you at the live show.
