Hella Chisme Podcast
Hella Chisme Podcast is a production where Dana and Stefanie sit together with their favorite cocktails and talk about their day-to-day lives. They will cover a wide variety of topics like sex, dating, marriage, pop culture, spirituality and more. The Hella Chisme Podcast will have audio and visual releases every Friday across all major platforms. It's gonna be hella fun.
Hella Chisme Podcast
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Welcome back to another Episode of the Hella Chisme Podcast.
This week, We get real about finding balance in an increasingly busy world and discuss the challenges of maintaining personal identity while juggling multiple roles and responsibilities.
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Speaker 1:That's right. Welcome back to another episode. Everyone, happy Friday. I hope your week was a success, and by success I mean I hope you made it through baby. Right, what's been going on? It's been a minute. We have not had the well, we did the live last week or the week before last, and then we've been busy. So what's been going on?
Speaker 2:tell us all the things yeah, I think we had a live last week and then, um, since then I, um, and since then I. So I went to last weekend I went to a birthday, like get together at a bar on Saturday, which was cool. You know, like I'm not drinking, but I did have like a gummy and so it was chill. And that Sunday since I'm not used to being out so late and I'm, you know, busy during the week, I ended up just like sleeping literally all day, like I woke up at 1130. I got some food and went back to sleep till my kids came back, like at seven. I was so tired. And then this week work has been very busy, been on the go and a good friend of mine of many years got married yesterday in Temecula. The venue was gorgeous, she looked beautiful and got to dance and you know it was a good time.
Speaker 1:It was at the Wilson's Creek Winery right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was at the Wilson's Creek Vineyard. It's really nice. They have like a restaurant on site and then they have Like outside is very beautiful and they had like little goats roaming around, which was cute, like little baby goats and stuff.
Speaker 2:And the weather was actually like nice. I was worried that it would be cold, but it was nice and the reception was indoors so didn't have to worry about it being too cold and stuff. And we did uh, she did like a sparkler send-off, which was cute and are they going straight to their honeymoon?
Speaker 2:no, I think they're staying there like for the weekend and stuff and doing like wine tasting and just, you know, having their time to celebrate and stuff. But yeah, I think they're going to wait. I think like in a month or so she said they're going to do their honeymoon and go.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:They have a few places in mind, so Okay, yeah it. Yeah, it was cute. You know, she has a son and he was having a blast dancing and having the time of his life, so I think that was good. You know, it was like his wedding too.
Speaker 1:Nice, nice. That's so cute. I love it. Is the winery? Is it super big or is it just like? Is it? I don't, I've never been, so I'm very.
Speaker 2:Wilson Creek is pretty big. Yeah, Wilson Creek is pretty big. I know I've had their wine and their wine is really good, but it is pretty big and then they have like the creek on the side and you can like little bridges and at night you can hear the frogs and stuff and the lighting is very nice. The bridal suite that they provided was pretty big and like their service was very good. Everybody was like super helpful and nice. Yeah, the decorations were pretty and it all went smoothly.
Speaker 1:Well, that's good, that's good. I love that. I love you know. I love a good wedding honey.
Speaker 2:Yes, honey, yes, and it ended early, you know, which is good, because I did drive back. On the way back, it was like sprinkling most of the drive back and I was pissed because I had just washed my car. That always happens, I was like because I had just washed my car.
Speaker 1:That always happens. I was like bro. That's exactly why I have not washed my car, because it's been. We've been getting some, on and off, random spouts of rain yeah, we had a damn near a full week of rain. What was that like a week and a half ago, and then, and then, and the other day it rained down here, and then it rained and like sprinkled all the way to work the other day, um, and then I think it's also supposed to rain again on sunday, if I believe I saw correctly on my calendar.
Speaker 1:No, sorry, not this Sunday but, yeah.
Speaker 2:I just didn't want to like arrive to the wedding with my car like dirty and stuff, you know I was like, oh, let me wash my car and stuff. But then on the drive back I was like damn it, what the ugh. But you know I just drove a little bit slower, since it was night time, you know, and sprinkling so, but it was cool, like I just drove a little bit slower since it was nighttime, you know, and sprinkling so, but it was cool, like I just listened to my music and, you know, relaxed.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I used to be tired. Huh, I'm too old.
Speaker 2:I said I'm just a little tired, I'm getting a little too old for this Weekday.
Speaker 1:Weekday. What? Who am I kidding?
Speaker 2:I'm like girl being out like on a weekday, you know.
Speaker 1:I mean, girl, it would be one thing if you were out, like you know, partying it up and drinking all day, but it's another thing when, like, a long drive is a long drive and especially if it's traffic yeah, I hit traffic there yeah, I know, to mecca, sometimes the traffic going can be a doozy for sure. Yeah, well, that's cool yeah, I've been what have you?
Speaker 2:been up to I've been here.
Speaker 1:There's just been a lot going on, uh, just really busy with work and uh, I am officially on spring break. So, yay, I am so happy to be going to school and working full time. But I'm pretty sure I've said how tiring it's been for me yeah but yeah, just how is school going?
Speaker 1:it's going good. Yeah, this semester has been, it's been really busy. You know, I am in three classes I had I think the fourth class starts next week sometime and it's like a short, like four week class or whatever but it's going good, it's going as well as it could go. My grades are good. I've only missed like one or two assignments, but it was like a quiz. The first, the one class. I missed the quiz because I didn't know it was due like that early on in the in the semester. The other one, I thought it was due on a different date. But whatever, it's not going to break my grade. But everything so far, so good. I'm happy to be on a little bit of break and then next week I'm going out of town. So somehow I've aligned all of that perfectly.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's good, you can relax.
Speaker 1:And yes, because it's just been tiring and work has been crazy, crazy busy. So I'm ready to take a break and to sit down somewhere.
Speaker 2:Yeah, work's been crazy too. It's been like a shortage of staff, so we've been like all over the place, especially starting this week Like it started this week where we're like people covering everywhere, people covering everywhere, and one of my co-worker friends, the one that just recently got married as well like a couple of months ago she's moving to Minnesota and she leaves on, I think, monday, so we're friends, but she works.
Speaker 2:We work together as well. So she's in my unit, so it's been like three or four people that we've been covering, so it's been like heavy. But yeah, she's moving to Minnesota and I'm like I feel you girl, because the county positions over there they pay. I think they pay like they start. They start you like at $26, $27 an hour, but also like your standard of living is way cheaper.
Speaker 1:Way cheaper, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so you're making decent money for you know, for being over there, yeah, I mean Minnesota isn't very expensive to live yeah and also it's gorgeous.
Speaker 1:But I mean, is she used to that all four seasons or?
Speaker 2:she's a caddy girl, so she's definitely gonna fuck around and find out she's gonna find out. But you know, like, her husband moved over, I think in the beginning of the year, so you know he has his job and everything together and then I think she already has like a job offer lined up. She does have a job lined up, so it's a new, a new chapter for her. I, you know, I've I've considered moving to different states too. It's always been in the back of my head, but I don't know yeah, that's been.
Speaker 1:So.
Speaker 1:I've mentioned that I've been going to therapy and a good portion of the conversation that we've been having is about, like moving, and you know just where I see myself settling in, I mean, obviously, but not without my husband, but also, just like you know, I always had a dream or a goal to go and live outside the country for a period of time, um, and I do want to do that one day, and it's like when I see myself doing that, or and if it's going to be like permanent or not.
Speaker 1:So I actually have reached out to see about my school studying a broad program, because they do have one, so I thought about doing that next year, oh, and I think we'll be in like spain or something like that, for three, three weeks or so, which I think is enough time, like a month, to go live somewhere else, you know, get a taste of different culture and a different life. But you know, anyway, trying to vision, visualize yourself somewhere else, I think is a good, always something good to do and always something that I think, as we become adults and move through life, is something that we should try and figure out and do.
Speaker 2:But you never know, I think what, what you're saying is true, like when you become adults, you know, because then that's when you're saying is true, like when you become an adult, you know, because then that's when you're actually like paying the rent, paying the mortgage, paying all the bills, and you're seeing, like the reality of, like you know, what it is to be in your country, whichever that may be, is it? You're like balancing the pros and cons and, like you know, then politics come into play and just so many social justice issues that are happening and controversy. So you have to really weigh, like, the good and the bad and see if it's worth it and busting your ass and everything else, because life is too short.
Speaker 1:It is that it is definitely too short. I think, also, one of the things that we talk about is how, you know you find yourself being so busy because you're trying to. I find myself being so busy because there's clearly something else that you know that isn't. There's going on that you want to kind of distract yourself from. So you know asking yourself what are you trying to distract yourself from? So you know asking yourself what are you trying to distract yourself from? What is it that we, as people just like we've said before, what are we trying to take off our plates? What are we trying to run and hide from? You know, addressing what's really going on with us as as people's.
Speaker 2:Do you think it's also like some people find, like I don't know if self-fulfillment is the right word or not, but like with accomplishments and like or like your self-esteem or your self-worth being connect, like some people being connected to like, either like accomplishments or like job titles or certain wages or things like that? Do you think sometimes that's why people put up with like the lifestyle, I guess of like hustling and bustling and just like freaking gas pedal to the floor?
Speaker 1:yeah, I mean, yes, I do. I do think and know, um, that people love to hustle. People like to, you know, get into the daily grind of going after what it is that they want, because of exactly what you're saying, like self-worth. They want to make sure they feel like they're getting out what they need from all the different things that they're doing, and they want to see themselves at a different space in their career at some point. They want to make that, however, x amount of dollars out of whatever it is that they want to make money off of. You know, I do see that and I do, and I'm sure that's exactly what it is for most people, but I also think that there are people out there who do do things to keep themselves distracted. It's a known fact that you know when, sometimes, when people are going through divorce or grieving, they find something to distract themselves, to keep their mind off of it, instead of dealing with it also, people don't always know, people don't always know how to deal with things either, so or don't want to
Speaker 1:or don't want to right, um, so't want to right. So I think that you know therapy has been over the last couple of weeks. It's been very interesting. I've been learning a lot of things about myself that I kind of knew but also didn't really think about or look at or pay attention to, or I've just been kind of just maneuvering and, you know, getting through, so I haven't necessarily been paying attention to it, but it has been. It has been an interesting process, to say the least that's what it's supposed to be right yes, it's definitely supposed to be that.
Speaker 2:I think also, like I don't know if it's just a California thing, but I do think it's a California thing of like everybody always has somewhere to go or somewhere to be, or, like you, we just we hustle here, like whether it's LA or San Diego or like wherever. Like people hustle, you know, because, as I mentioned, like my mom recently moved to Wisconsin and she's just like everyone is just just take, it's like slow, like everyone takes their time, like at work, it's just like, oh, you know, and my mom's, like you know, she's on the go, she's like here and there and like you know. So yeah, I definitely think like all those things kind of go like hand in hand, you know yeah, absolutely, and I mean because you can find yourself in a.
Speaker 1:You can find yourself just in a constant hamster wheel of all the shit that you gotta do or that's going on. So you know, so let's take a quick little break and then we'll come back and we'll keep chatting it up.
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Speaker 1:So this week we're just gonna do a shoot to shit episode. Um. I mean, it's been really busy. Stephanie and I haven't really had a chance to really just connect on a level of just us, so um I'll talk about whatever comes up and comes out.
Speaker 1:You know, just get some things going. There has been some current events going on, so maybe some of those will come up as well, but I think just a good way just to start. I know we always check in in the beginning of the show. But what is really the tea? How are you really doing, friend? What's going on?
Speaker 2:um, I feel like I like I am doing good, but I have days where I'm just like really exhausted, um, and also, like there have been days where, like I get really like I get a little frustrated and a little upset. I guess would be the right word Just trying to balance like having like a life for me along with like being a mom, because that's it's a huge identity of mine, but it's not my only identity and I don't know like maybe some people are going to judge that and like, oh, once you're a mom like that's it but yes, that's, you know, my number one rule, but I'm still me and like I can't for me personally, like I think I'm a better mom when I have something for myself, or like I'm doing like things for myself as well.
Speaker 2:yeah, and it's hard like um, like dating, for an example. Right, like it's so hard to like consistently make time to date, you know. Or or like you know, like see each other more frequently, or you know, that's one example. And then, with the podcast, you know, like that's something for me with you, you know, but in my life it's like this is something for me with my friend, and like like fun, and like you know it's work, yes, but it's for fun.
Speaker 2:At the end of the day like that's why we started it, you know, and it's like I feel sometimes like I don't know, it's hard it's hard to what for it to still be fun, or no, it's hard to what? For it to still be fun. No, it's hard like to feel like, not like, in a way, like losing these things or like not being able to have these things along with being a mom and I don't know. I'm not even about to start crying no.
Speaker 2:I just, you know, it's just hard Like finding like a balance of everything. It's a lot of work home. I'm not about to start crying, no, I just you know, it's just hard like finding like a balance of everything. It's a lot of work, it's a lot of weight, you know.
Speaker 1:But we gotta keep on pushing. Are we still dating?
Speaker 2:I'm trying. Yeah, Are we still dating?
Speaker 1:um trying. Yeah, are we. Are we still dating?
Speaker 2:yeah, the person I mentioned the person I mentioned on the on the last episode yeah okay, I mean, and that's what I'm saying, like you know, it's been like almost three months, you know. So it's like you want to see each other more frequently. And seeing each other once a week, once every 10 days, like it's good to take things slow, but it's also like, ok, bro, like I need more attention, needy and clean, but I am. I require a lot of attention to keep my interest, to feel like you know, like I don't know how to explain it like to just feel, to feel like it's still moving forward yes, to feel secure, I guess, in the connection, uh-huh, exactly, yeah, connected there.
Speaker 2:You go to just feel like you know like words of affirmation are nice, like the words, the text, the calls, like cool, but you know like physical touch, I feel like it's important, not necessarily like hooking up, but like you know, just like you know physical presence as well, like just like that, yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean, I think my follow up question is is that something that you both are working on or trying to work on, or is it just something that's an issue on one side on or trying to work on, or is it just?
Speaker 2:something that's an issue on one side. Honestly, I think it's. It's um, the majority is like me, like finding the time because, like my kids are younger and involved in in activities and stuff, and the thing is I have been trying to like lighten my load with like um, like my co-parent, I guess, like hey, can you take them or like stuff like that. But it's, it helps, but to an extent, you know, like, because it has to be consistent, like like you know, and it's a process. You know because, also like we, he has a varied work schedule, you know, like my co-parent and like you know, and in my schedule. So it's like, yeah, it's just so many factors.
Speaker 1:Yeah. I mean, I think, I would say, then at some point y'all gonna have to have that family integration conversation.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he's brought it up.
Speaker 1:I feel like the roadblock is the person that.
Speaker 2:Is it me? Am I the problem?
Speaker 1:no, I mean I think you know listen, I mean girl, you're gonna have to. I mean, if you want to date and you want to be in a serious relationship, you're gonna have to let go of the ring, the strengths a little bit. But I also understand bringing around strangers around your kids, especially because they are younger, you know, because that is a thing too, you know you've only been on?
Speaker 2:Yeah, because I don't bring anyone around my kids.
Speaker 1:Right and I understand that. I think and I've talked about many times like Paris was the only, like the first real person that I brought around my family, because I took that very seriously, like I was like, no, because if y'all, if you, if I bring you niggas around, then y'all gonna want to stick around and I don't know that I want you around like that. So you know I get it. But also, if you want things to be serious, then you have to just finally make a decision on what it is that you're going to do, especially if you want to spend more time with one another and with each other. But you can also do that with boundaries, you know. You can say I'm going to start bringing you around, but we're going to soft launch it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like whether it's like a group setting or like going out to eat somewhere, like something like that.
Speaker 1:That's right, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like something like that, right, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's something you know. The seed has been planted, so we shall see. Um, and I think you know, and it's not just the dating, it's, like you know, the podcast too and, like you know, like the gym, like I feel, like I've been, like I haven't been able to. I've gone to the gym maybe like twice in the last two weeks and for me the gym is like I enjoy it, like, even if I just go at least do cardio or something like it gives me an outlet, you know yeah, no, yeah, I've been back at the gym over the last couple of weeks as well, the last month or so.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yes, girl I've been going right after work yeah because when I yes, when I tell you my back is just not happy and I'm still, like you know, just trying to figure that, whatever that is, I still need to go to a chiropractor or go get some some acupuncture or something.
Speaker 1:I was actually thinking about trying to get a massage today, but we'll see how, if that happens or how that goes. But yeah, just, you know, sore, I can only really do so much. I try to push the limit a little bit to see, if, you know, I won't be sore or in pain after. But for the most part I'm doing a lot of cardio and just like light lifting, so like I'll use a kettlebell because that's a little bit more easier lifting than like free weights or you know the machines with the weights and stuff. I just don't want to injure myself more or make it worse than whatever it already is, than it is right now, because I don't really I don't like being sore or stiff or in pain. It's uncomfortable and I don't want that for me yeah, um, that's good that you went back.
Speaker 2:I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's good and then I don't think I told you but I also I've been on a 30-day cleanse so I have not been drinking. I haven't drank since. Uh, I went to the bay in at the end of february so, um yeah, lots of water have been. I've been drinking a lot of water.
Speaker 2:How do you feel?
Speaker 1:I feel good, you know, I feel like I've been sleeping a little bit better, um been dreaming. I've been dreaming heavy, but I think that's because I have been smoking a joint every so often before bed what did we call you when you were?
Speaker 1:puffiana is back like every so often. I found some joints in my little my gold little cigarette case that I bought a while back and I've been smoking them things whenever I was just like I need to like decompress from the day, and they haven't been getting me like super high, it's just been like they've been super mellow. So I really like those. I might get some more of those, yeah I love this for you yeah, girl, you know that's cute.
Speaker 1:Um, I mean, I'm gonna go on a little break next week, um, because we're going to paso robles and we're going to wine tasting.
Speaker 2:Oh, so you're going to be over there.
Speaker 1:No, I won't be smoking.
Speaker 2:I'll just be drinking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I'm good off the crossfade situation. I think that I've grown out of it.
Speaker 2:Right, that's heavy.
Speaker 1:We're not doing her anymore, we're Gucci.
Speaker 2:But how have you been feeling, Like really feeling.
Speaker 1:Really and truly. I have been just on a. I've been tired and exhausted, starting with work. You know it's been a very chaotic space. It's been very up and down, which I've talked briefly about just the workspace that I work in, and then with all the executive orders that come up and come out and continuously have been coming out. It hasn't been directly affecting me and my job and my work, but it is a topic of conversation continuously in my work because we do get a very small portion of federal funding and we don't know to what aspect that is going to affect us for some of the projects and things that we have going on around our organization.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so there's that. And then my role currently has been on a consistent change, so I'm in charge of a lot more things and managing a lot more things. So you know that just makes for my a very busy and very long day and it has definitely made for my views to be much shorter. So for, for example, this past week, I've had to kind of check a couple of people. I've had to put a couple of bitches in their place because I just was like A y'all got me fucked up and B I hate being that person. Because why, for what? Right, and just to make the long story short, the one situation was because this girl was saying that I didn't provide her with information that I absolutely did and that her and I talked about. In that her and I talked about, she also, instead of just saying that they hadn't started on a project, just was going around and around and trying to blame us for why she hadn't started working on something that she should have been started working on, like gaslighting.
Speaker 1:Gaslighting yes, that, yes In a work meeting in front of people. So you know, I really was like girl. I'm about to come and snatch your wig off Like you have no clue. And then there was this other woman who you know, she works in the finance department and she's just all over the place and the department's all over the place, and so she was just talking to me crazy and so I just had to, you know report her to my boss which she had an attitude or what.
Speaker 1:She just has a nasty attitude, you know. She's just she be talking to people crazy, it's just what it boils down to. And she tried it and she about to get what she asked for. Because I think what people need to realize is I do work in HR and I have the powers at VBaby. So don't try, You're going to try the wrong one.
Speaker 2:I feel like we had a conversation one time too, me and you like outside of this and everything where you're like I get more mad that people you said something like that they get you out of your character out of your character and like they're pulling that out of you. So that now they are gonna fuck around and find out. Yes, exactly more than what they actually, you know, are doing yeah, yes, and that's exactly what you know.
Speaker 1:what makes that it. That is it right. And and I had in one of my colleagues. She was like, oh, he's pissed off. And I'm like, no, don't say that, because the thing is this like I'm very chill, I'm very cool, very calm, but what I what makes me even more upset than you just pissing me off is now I have to show you that you got me fucked up.
Speaker 2:So now you're going to make me be the bitch, right, you want me to be like why are you doing? That to yourself.
Speaker 1:Why are you do this to you, girl? I hate this for you, this is not what you want. So then there's been that, and then with school, um, you know, it's been pretty easy. I've been finding my footing. It's just that, with trying to create a healthy move forward, with more of a healthy balance in my life, do some stuff for myself, it's just been. It's like it's very layered, so school work and then us trying to figure out the show and, um, yeah, and then like other projects that I have going on, which you know is another thing, like I've been, I want to do more in this podcasting realm.
Speaker 1:So I have started working on a little short series that I've been writing and it's just, you know just what's going, what could possibly be going on, with my parents and, more important, mostly my dad trying to figure that out, and health wise and stuff like that. So it's been a lot going on, to say the least. So I am trying to find the balance. I'm trying to find the areas and abilities to take things off my plate and to move things around so that, you know, I can focus on the things that I actually want to focus on and accomplish things that I want to accomplish. That's kind of been my life. Yeah, it's kind of been my life. Yeah, I also school, going back to school, I've been kind of having this realization conversation with myself that I think I interested in fucking around and finding out and being in a situation where I am like hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt from student loans and you know they're not willing to work with me on how I want to pay them off or how we can pay them off.
Speaker 2:so and then it's not really I don't necessarily need a bachelor's degree to get through my career, yeah, so yeah, I know I got my associates and I swore I was always gonna go get back and get my bachelor's and finish it. But there's so many like whether it's like that you have to figure out that portion or the time, or there's so many layers to it.
Speaker 2:You know, Especially like work with myself has been busy also because of like budgets and like so many things. You know, so many random executive orders being signed for so much, so many different things and nonsense. To me it's nonsense, but you know it's just so much shit like the air.
Speaker 2:You know, and change is good when it's, like, you know, with good intention and for growth and things like that. But sometimes, like when things are changing that you're like what, exactly? Why, right? What is what? Are we supposed to benefit from this? Or like who's benefiting from this?
Speaker 1:or like when that's unclear, it makes the change more questionable or it makes you resist it a little more or more apprehensive, you know yeah, yeah, 100, I agree, you know, I think that, um, when you, when you graduated with your associates, did you walk the stage and everything?
Speaker 2:I did yeah, okay I did, because junior was like I think my son was like one or so and I just I wanted to give that to my parents. You know, like my dad never graduated high school and like I think my mom did, but that was it. Like you know, college is like it's a big deal. You know, like, whether it's community college, whether whatever college is college, you know college courses are college courses and as a mom to like a newborn that was doing classes and working and everything else I wanted to give that to myself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, you know yeah.
Speaker 2:And my son to see me walk and have pictures and stuff. Are you going to do it?
Speaker 1:Yes, I am. So what I'm going to do is, after this semester, I'm going to meet with my counselor and tell her where I'm at, what I'm thinking and what's going on. Just tell her where I'm at, what I'm thinking and what's going on, and get an understanding of what other classes I need to take, and then go from there. To finish your associate's, or what Huh?
Speaker 2:Like other classes you need to take to finish your associate's.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah yeah yeah, because I think I've taken I'm sure I've taken all my comms classes, I think, or close to, but I don't. I don't know how many more classes I need for the creative writing part. So I have to see what else is needed so that I can wrap all of it up and then do what. Do what I need to do to be able to move forward and then walk the stage. But it's not, I mean, to me it's like I'll be walking the stage with an associates in communications and creative writing and a HR management certification um as well. So you know I'm like this is good enough yeah, no, you should definitely walk.
Speaker 1:I'll have my air horn yes, I'm like this is fine. I don't. You know, to me, I think this, to me, the celebration will be that I did it. You know, I went back, I did what I wanted to do. I did, I took the time out, I worked hard. Committed and committed and you know I'm happy to gracefully draw the line here.
Speaker 2:And accept my certificates.
Speaker 1:And accept my certificates? Yes, because you know I think that that is enough for me and you know I will be very happy with that and without accumulating any more debt while doing it.
Speaker 2:That part. I think that's the part that's mostly kept me from like finishing my bachelor's is like is tens of thousands of dollars worth this? Like, am I really going to see a difference in pay worth this? Like, am I really gonna see a difference in pay? I have, like I am blessed with so much work experience in the field that I'm in, you know, and knowledge that I've earned from experience. You know, along with my associates, that I'm like well, I have the more than five years of it. So, like, am I really gonna get more money to pay this other? Like 20s? It's great to have it, you know, and if you, if you were able to get that and you had the support or the financial resources to do that, like that's dope, you know I'm just speaking like me.
Speaker 2:At least you know yeah no, I 100 agree.
Speaker 1:Also, not to mention like a lot, and I know you know some people say well, your jobs has a reimbursement program. My job is only going to reimburse me two grand per semester, so sometimes semesters are more than that like yes, like for tuition, you know, and I'm good yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm happy to get what I'm I've worked for and to move on with my life. When I initially started school, I was starting school because I was unemployed. At the time, a bachelor sounded great, but just looking at all of it and looking at where we are, I think right now walking away with the associates is a great idea, and then maybe later I'll revisit the conversation. This candle smells so good yeah. It's never too late.
Speaker 1:It's never too late to go back to school. I was just talking to one of my commissioners and she said that her mom went back and graduated at 50 and graduated top of her class so what is? It cum laude. She graduated cum laude at, I think, scsu. So you know she graduated cum laude at, I think, scsu. So you know. I know that there's. There'll be opportunities later, but right now this is not the time.
Speaker 2:But I am going to graduate with my certificates and we're going to be done with that we're going to move on the associates is a degree, so you're getting a degree and a certificate, so absolutely.
Speaker 1:I'm good, I'm happy with that actually you should so let's take a quick break and we'll come back and we'll wrap up all the things. Bye, okay, we're back to wrap up the show. So I don't have an affirmation. Let me see if I can find one really quick. Um, any final thoughts. While I find a little affirmative affirmation, my final thoughts are alright.
Speaker 2:Um, my final thoughts are All right For today. I would say that, you know, giving people like something I've noticed, like in relationships and friendships and like people around me and stuff lately, is boundaries are not a thing with everybody, and I feel like learning and setting boundaries is really important. You can give people grace, you can forgive them, you can wish them well and have no hard feelings if they do something to you, but still keep them at a distance and you know just, you don't have to be like super tight, you know, and stuff like that. You can like set some boundaries, you know, and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:You can like set some boundaries, you know set some boundaries and also just set some boundaries and also just take care of you. You know it's it's always important just to take care of you.
Speaker 2:It's very, very important it is because mental health is a real thing.
Speaker 1:Yes, and always remember. Mi opinion is always yeah, as well as Está bien, peder, ayuda. Oh sí, and lastly, sí, se puede.
Speaker 2:Come on duolingo, Come on bilingual, that's right. You better get it friend.
Speaker 1:Call me Selena Isha. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:So when is our next trip to Mexico, since you see Sunnys or whatever?
Speaker 1:I mean girl, I'm trying to go ASAP, Rocky Get the fuck out of here. I'm trying to get the fuck out of here. I don't know when should we go. Your birthday's coming up soon.
Speaker 2:I know that's Mother's Day weekend, so I was thinking I kind of want to do something the weekend after.
Speaker 1:The weekend after is.
Speaker 2:Either May 2nd like go May 2nd or May 16th.
Speaker 1:May 16th because I'm going to the Beyonce concert the weekend of May 2nd.
Speaker 2:Where here LA In.
Speaker 1:LA.
Speaker 2:In Los Angeles.
Speaker 1:Yes, oh, my God, it's's funny. I kept thinking about this, but I just never did amaya has officially hit a scene.
Speaker 2:Get closer, isn't she cute? Dana got a new hat guys.
Speaker 1:I did. I don't know if it's on the right way right now. Oh yes, it is okay.
Speaker 2:There it goes okay okay she's gonna be rocking this I think it's still on rock.
Speaker 1:Hi amaya, hello. I'm gonna be wearing it this weekend when we go out of town while we're in paso robles. So yeah, I'm ready for my cowboy carter experience I can't wait to see that.
Speaker 2:That's cute. I can't wait to see the pictures, but uh, that's perfect for mexico and cowboy, I know right, I know I need.
Speaker 1:I want to get a black one. There's a black one that I wanted. I'll get one next, but I got the brown one, because that's the colors that I'm trying to wear is like more brown and like denim on denim, but you know the vibe Duh, all right, everyone. Well, it's been fantabulous. Make sure you like, comment or subscribe. Make sure to follow us on all of our platforms. We will be back next week with another episode, so you know, keep looking out for us and be a good person, be kind yeah, be a good person, be kind.
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