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Welcome back to a new episode of the Hella Chisme Podcast, This week, We talk about Valentine's Day and the mix feelings it brings. We also discuss expectations which can lead to misunderstandings in relationships. We discuss our own experiences, share funny dating stories, and reflect on the need for honest communication and self-love, reinforcing the idea that love is about connection.
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Speaker 1:That's fine, that's right. As Ashley Darby would say, thriving and surviving is what we're doing, ain't that right?
Speaker 2:Yes, you and this soundboard are going to be, a dangerous duo.
Speaker 1:And I'm here for it honestly.
Speaker 2:It's so funny because I've been wanting you know how we have the interface right so they have interfaces that have um, the little, um the buttons.
Speaker 1:Like that you can push the buttons on yes and I've been wanting them so bad. Um so I'm so excited this is here and I probably would use it every time yeah, you should, it's fun I really what I need. I need one that has an air horn. Look, see it. Even I wish I could show you, but it even sets it up like it is like a soundboard. It's actually really cool. I'm actually really excited about this.
Speaker 1:I do like that. Uh, anyway, let's start all over again. Welcome back to to the Hella Cheesemade Podcast. My name is Dana.
Speaker 2:My name is Stephanie.
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Speaker 2:Oh sorry, I wanted to chime in um february 13th we will be live on the tiktok yes and hopefully instagram we'll we'll be sure to post it and everything, but for sure, february 13th we will have another live, so make sure you tune in for that yes, yes, yes, um, also black history.
Speaker 1:It is black history month. Happy black history month to all of my black people, niggas and friends. Insert hand clap right. Insert hand clap hold on hold. On hold. On hold on hold. On hold. On hold. Hold on. Here we go. Happy Black History Month to all of my niggas and friends. That's right, that put in for us and that made it possible for us blacks and African American folks to be up in this world. And then fuck you to all the people that is making it difficult for us to be in this world. Can I get an amen? That's right. That's right.
Speaker 2:That's right, and what we gonna do. Haters will hate, but you're out there thriving. Haters will hate, and, like my friend Chris Brown said, how you gonna hate outside the club when you can't even get in.
Speaker 3:Oh, let go y'all not gonna know what to do with me this is what we've been needing.
Speaker 1:We've been needing this soundboard effect. Y'all ain't gonna know what the fuck to do with us moving forward with this soundboard. I'm about to be up in here, straight up, acting, acting you fool. All I need. I'm about to make a note. I need an air horn sound effect, so I'm going to have to go find it and figure out how to get it and make it possible. So I will notate that for myself. Anyway, what's going on, girl? Tell me some stories. How's the week been? What's the tea?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so this week has been, it's been good. I did feel like today was a little bit off like the energy, I don't know Like it just felt super, like heavy. But I did go on a hot girl walk with my cousin. So shout out to her uh, place at ivy. And we, um, we just like. Well, we walked by the beach and it was just refreshing and like peaceful. You know, um, it's always nice to walk by the water and ocean and just kind of breathe, um, so that was cute.
Speaker 2:And then I went to the gym and I will say I'm proud of myself. I have been sticking to the gym um six days of six days a week, um every week. So I, I do, I'm proud of myself for that and um, you know I love tiktok. I've always been a huge tiktoker, my favorite addiction. But I have been a little more hesitant lately in going on tiktok just because of the amount of like news and craziness that you know is constantly being fed and and brought to our attention and we're exposed to, and I feel like I kind of get a little overstimulated. I've been waking up in the middle of the night like every night for the last almost two weeks now.
Speaker 3:Same.
Speaker 2:And like literally every night, like around four o'clock, and I don't even know what it is, and, like I've been working out, I haven't been drinking like energy drinks. I've been really active and like reading and trying, you know, to control my social media, but I don't know what it is like. It's just like a, like an intuitive feeling or something um or just a feeling that yeah it's
Speaker 2:a lot of shit going on right, like your intuition, and just like it's a lot, um, but we're out here doing the best we can and that's what it is. You know, my kids are going to hawaii for a week next week. Um, I haven't been away from them for that long but I'm a little nervous about that. But I, I think I made a decision to request days off while they're gone.
Speaker 2:So, then I can just completely chill and do what I want to do during the day and just really rest. Yeah, but other than that I've been good. I know the Super Bowl is this weekend. I'm debating if I want to watch it or not. Honestly. I know they're saying that the Orange man is going to be there, so I really don't want to watch it and give them that Like that you know like, because they get money off of us watching absolutely um, so I don't want to give them that.
Speaker 2:However, I am a huge kendrick fan and I'm so excited that he is going to be the performer.
Speaker 1:Um, so maybe I'll just like hop on real quick for like the halftime show and like hop back off, you know yes, I, um, I feel that I am actually I was thinking that I was gonna, I don't know, I may watch it, I may not. Um, I think I want to. I definitely want to watch the halftime show, uh, just because I'm like it's kendrick lamar and I think sZA is supposed to be actually joining him too. Um, so, and I kind of want to go to that concert, um, because it's sisa and I've been. I wanted to go to see her last time but I didn't get to. Um, so I'm kind of you're also looking forward
Speaker 3:to it right oh yeah, we talked about this yeah yeah, that would be dope.
Speaker 2:I'd be down for that, um, but yeah, sisa is supposed to be there as well, so I'm sure the halftime shows are going to be bomb. Like I said, maybe I'll just hop on for that, because that's really what I watch it for, anyways.
Speaker 1:Well, I think also to me. The other reason why I do watch the Super Bowl is so that I can watch football, be excited and get drunk.
Speaker 3:And eat.
Speaker 1:And eat.
Speaker 2:And we usually get together for it yes, yes.
Speaker 1:So that's kind of what I'm there for um. We'll see, you know, how things go um, but you know, hey, I'm here for it yeah um Other than that?
Speaker 2:yes, so what about?
Speaker 1:you.
Speaker 2:How's your week been?
Speaker 1:My week has been good. It's been really busy, you know. Work has been trying to take over my life, as per usual, but I do my best to not let it faze me. But I do my best to not let it faze me. There's been, you know, still a lot of shit going on with all the new executive orders and all of those things and all of the other shit that's happening in the world. But other than that, I have been doing my best to keep my peace as we try to preach to y'all consistently. So that's that.
Speaker 2:As we proceed to give you what you need To give you what y'all need. Yes, and what we need.
Speaker 1:Yes, all of that.
Speaker 2:Love me freestyling.
Speaker 1:I mean, you know what For that? Do you know what you deserve?
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 1:You deserve some cheers, honey. Yes, give the girls her flowers when they're here. Um, girl, this soundboard is about to give me life. I'm so excited. Um girl, this soundboard is about to give me life. I'm so excited.
Speaker 1:Um, so it is black history month, but it's also we celebrate the month of love. And there's a month it's also go red, uh, which is a heart and health um initiative mostly I believe mostly ran by the heart association. And then, um, you know, red cross does some uh things for it, and then american heart association does too. My brother used to work for the american heart association, uh, but this month is go red and valentine's day and then, uh, the month of black history month is happening. So, you know, celebrate all of the things that you want to celebrate, but, most importantly, celebrate those Blacks and, you know, show them some love. For this episode, we were going to kind of just go into some Valentine's Day stories, dating stories we have some on lock that we're going to read and just have a couple of different conversations. I think it's going to be fun and we're going to get a couple of laughs in. But how have you really felt ever about Valentine's Day? Have you always been a Valentine's Day, celebrate person or what's been your thoughts on Valentineentine's day?
Speaker 2:um, I I'm not like big valentine's person if, if I'm like dating someone, um, I do have an expectation of like maybe that sounds bad, but I do have an expectation of like something, like some sort of gift, some sort of effort, um, and I don't know, I'm not, I'm not big about like the huge grand gestures on valentine's day. Um, or like necessarily having to go out to a restaurant or anything like that. But you know, a thoughtful like gift or something thoughtful like is nice, you know.
Speaker 1:So you? So you would say that you just like the simple things of Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I like that Because I feel like they should be consistent, like it shouldn't just be like oh, valentine's Day.
Speaker 1:We're making it a thing, yeah.
Speaker 2:Like oh. Yeah, I get that. I mean I've making it a thing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like oh yeah, I get that. I mean I.
Speaker 2:I've always been more strict Really.
Speaker 1:What are some expectations for birthdays?
Speaker 2:there should be like a lot of effort and like um, making me feel extremely special and like making sure, just like either planning something or, like you know, a really nice gift, or like, um, and just making me feel special, know like doing the most that day.
Speaker 1:I mean, I think I'm strict about all of them. I always want to make sure that I'm getting a gift, I'm getting praise. I want to make sure I'm getting all the things I need at all. Let me hear you audience. No, but for real, it's my Leo in me that always needs some sort of gratification and or knowing that the person who I am canoodling with or laid up with is going to rain gifts upon me. I don't know, I think it's also just because I'm spoiled, so that could be also part of it. But yeah, that's just.
Speaker 2:That's just how my cookie has been crumbling yeah lately um I do expect a lot of attention, though, like really yeah, yeah yeah, I mean, I get that, you know, ain't nothing wrong with it, ain't nothing wrong with it.
Speaker 1:Um, so I have a story, if you do, you have some reddit stories go first okay, I have one, so this one is.
Speaker 1:I actually don't know if it is, let me go back. So it doesn't back, so it doesn't, I don't. It doesn't specify who's dating who, like if it's a girl and guy, two guys, two girls or whatever. But it goes as follows. So the author has been dating their boyfriend for about two and a half months and recently became exclusive. They were initially happy but have started feeling undervalued and unappreciated due to his lack of effort, particularly regarding special occasions like their month of bursary and Valentine's Day. For their month of bursary, he originally agreed to plan but ended up putting in little effort, falling asleep soon after she arrived. She left feeling hurt and, although he apologized, nothing was resolved. For Valentine's Day, he considered their casual dinner and night together as their celebration, making her feel even more unimportant. In an attempt to show him how she'd like to be treated, she put together a thoughtful Valentine's Day surprise which he deeply appreciated but didn't offer to reciprocate.
Speaker 1:She feels she is always the one making plans, putting in effort and trying to maintain the relationship, while he passively follows along along. She acknowledges he is not a bad person but seems inexperienced. But the lack of communication and deeper emotional connection is making her question what she's getting out of the relationship. She now is unsure if she should stay or break up with him, especially since he invited her to meet his mom, something he's never done before, and she's worried about the implications of meeting her, while she's uncertain about continuing the relationship. So the advice that she's seeking is whether her feelings are valid, if breaking up with him would be reasonable, and is she taking the situation completely out of context or is she overreacting? Essentially, I think, for starters, can we start at the beginning? How long until we're not celebrating monthiversaries?
Speaker 2:Do you celebrate a monthiversary every month?
Speaker 1:I mean, I did when we first started dating, but not every single month.
Speaker 2:So when you were first dating, you guys celebrated every monthiversary.
Speaker 1:No, not every single one. I think we stopped at like six months.
Speaker 2:Okay, what are your?
Speaker 1:thoughts. Come on tell don't.
Speaker 2:I've never celebrated a month anniversary really like, so you don't be like happy three months like six months or like a year or like maybe three like my like little milestone ones, like yeah, but like like I won't be like happy two months or like happy like months or like you know I mean that makes sense yeah I mean six months, six months, two months, like, like six months is like halfway to a year, you know.
Speaker 2:So it's like that middle, it's like kind of more real at six months and you're like in that like routine-ish daily life, like real life, you know yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I get that.
Speaker 1:I think that I feel like six months is a good, is a good stopping point when we're done with celebrating monthiversaries. So my other question would be do because you just said that you like for your birthday to kind of be the biggest event, essentially, and so so then, for Valentine's Day, how much the expectation of effort is supposed to look like? What just?
Speaker 2:like just flowers, or what no, like, okay, so not just a little bouquet, by the way, like. I don't know if you've heard of like, but I'm a butcher not yet.
Speaker 1:I've actually been taking duolingo, so I'm pretty sure I'll learn okay, latino I'm on my third I know I'm on my, my third um. What is it let me? Let me look it's my third lesson, I think uh-huh yeah, see what's your third?
Speaker 2:my duolingo, oh you're getting the little, the little, um milestone in. Let me send you what it's called watch and you can google it so anyways. So these like it's like a big bouquet of roses.
Speaker 2:I do like that um and you know like either you bring food to me or you post me some food or something you know um, and just like a little gift, you know um, and just making me feel special and thoughtful, like that goes a long way for me, you know. Okay, but those, those ramo buchones are like like 200 at least. So I mean I'm not mad at that, but I love roses, I love them.
Speaker 2:They're nice, um yeah let me see, yeah, yeah go ahead I'm just more like about, like you know, the attention and making me feel special and everything like that I've had, you know. So I've had experiences like where guys will show up with, like you know, like those big ass teddy bears with like a big thing of flowers and chocolate, so one day, like in high school, this was so cute.
Speaker 2:Um, like in high school one time this guy like, so he picked me up to ditch class hey dad, hey mom, um, and he showed up, like with the big ass bouquet and the big, you know, those big ass bears they used to have I don't know if they still have them and like, showed up like with the big ass bouquet and the big, you know, those big ass bears they used to have.
Speaker 2:I don't know if they still have them and like chocolates and like all kinds of stuff, and like we went to go eat, like you know, just like little shit like that, like it was cute. You know I shouldn't have been ditching school, but I don't know I mean I don't know.
Speaker 3:I mean I don't know.
Speaker 2:Was that like my first?
Speaker 1:red flag. I don't know. We do a lot of things when we're in school. So the bouquets that you're talking about, actually they have been promoting super hard on Instagram with like all the glitter and stuff in the flowers.
Speaker 3:They're actually really nice oh they're so cute.
Speaker 1:I was like I might make Paris give me one of these, but I don't. The thing for me is that I want them to last a little longer.
Speaker 2:They last. Those last a long time, usually, like for me. The ones I've gotten have lasted me a while. Okay, and it's like for Mexican girls. It's like a thing Like if you get a ramo buchon, it's like how many ramo buchons have you gotten? And like I don't know, it's like a little flex, I guess.
Speaker 1:I mean yeah, I could see that. Yeah, all right, so what else you got?
Speaker 2:Okay, so let me read this story that I have On our first Valentine's Day together. I was supposed to be working but was allowed to finish my shift early. As it was pretty dead, I called my then-girlfriend to ask if she got my card in the post. Turns out she was on her way through the railway station, so got off the train and we met up. Of course, nowhere had space, not even Nando's or Pizza Hut. We ended up at McDonald's. My wife is broadly vegetarian because she doesn't like meat, so doesn't eat the meat substitute burgers. Mcdonald's does Pause. I didn't know they had meat substitute.
Speaker 1:At McDonald's.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I wonder if that's here. Okay.
Speaker 3:Are you eating McDonald's?
Speaker 2:I don't eat McDonald's, but but like I didn't know, that was like the thing that they had meat subs too yes, um, they had.
Speaker 1:I think they started a little while back. Burger king has it too oh, interesting.
Speaker 2:So she just had fries. She watched me destroy a quarter pounder deluxe, a double cheeseburger, a chocolate shake at my price. Since then it has become a tradition that we get mcdonald's on valentine's day. Um, so, making the best of a nightmare on our first one one, we one year we were overseas in a country that didn't have mcdonald's, so we bought all the ingredients to make it ourselves rather than go out. Anyway, that's cute. It wasn't like a horror story, but it was like a cute like the simple things.
Speaker 1:it's like what you're talking about, like you know, I guess I think for me my thing is I don't know, I just like to spend money. Yeah, I work hard for it, so let's go spend it. And who better to spend it on but me? Yeah, I guess, for me.
Speaker 2:It's like more like if you're going to spend money on me, like just give me the money. Like send me money, like be like, hey, here's a hundred bucks. Like go get yourself something cute. Or like go get yourself like a coffee and something. Like you know, like, like I don't know, like maybe because I'm like I don't know.
Speaker 1:I mean, in theory that makes sense yeah but I'm like, let's go out.
Speaker 2:You have like a like you guys know how to shop for each other. And I feel like a lot of straight men like let's be real, like, unless you tell them, like exactly what you want, like I want this bag, this color, it like you know what I mean, this size down, like I have to do that for paris do you, I had to yes, I had to literally give him the link to the bag that I wanted for Christmas in order for him to make sure to get the right one, the Louis.
Speaker 1:Otherwise, yes, he would have bought whatever the fuck he wanted.
Speaker 2:He would have bought a Louis wallet Girl. I'm just kidding A coin, purse A coin purse.
Speaker 1:That's even worse. I was was like what the fuck? Um? Yeah, I mean, I understand. Like you know, sometimes you have to be specific about what you're looking for, what you need, what you're asking for, um, especially if you want something specific. But some guys do know how to shop, some guys don't, but you know I it is.
Speaker 2:It can go both ways, um I think it also depends how long you've been together, like for me like when I was in a long-term relationship, like then, yeah, my expectations were higher. Like I'll be like okay, like buy me these Gucci glasses or these Versace glasses, or like you know things like that. So I guess I guess because I'm like not in a like a long-term relationship right now, like that's why that's where my mindset's at, but for sure, like when I'm deeper in, you know, the expectation's a little higher yeah, yeah, yeah, I get that, I get that, okay.
Speaker 1:Well, speaking of gifts, I think this is a good story to transition to. So this one is about a gift situation. So for this Valentine's Day, my husband and I agreed that we weren't going to get each other any gifts and just focus on quality time together. My only expectation was that he get me flowers for the day. Nothing expensive or crazy, just a small bouquet of daisies, which is their favorite flower.
Speaker 1:I've always been vocal about my desire for flowers once in a while and try to make it easier for him to understand what I want. He doesn't get my flowers for our anniversary, my birthday or any other special day of the years, and I just really wanted flowers for Valentine's Day. The day came up and we go out to eat and do other fun stuff, but the whole day I was waiting for him to surprise me with the flowers. Instead, at the end of the dinner he tells me he has a surprise and it ends up being a pair of earrings. They weren't really my style, but I still tried to be grateful for what he got me.
Speaker 1:When I got home, I couldn't hold it in anymore and I asked my husband about the flowers. He said he didn't get them and I responded by saying I would rather have them than these. He said I would. She said I would rather have them than these ugly earrings. I will admit my words were really harsh, but I'm really tired of him not listening and ignoring what I really want. So am I the asshole for telling my husband I hate my valentine's day gift?
Speaker 2:that's what I'm talking about. I will girl okay so let's let's where do we start? Do you think it's appropriate that she told him like I'd rather have this than that that these ugly earrings?
Speaker 1:I don't think she should have told him that. I don't think she should have asked at all like no, no, no, once she saw what she got, I don't think she should have said anything else and left it as that. And let me tell you why. So I have definitely been in situations, even currently, where I've asked for something specifically and got something opposite. It was only until now that I've been starting to get like when I asked for something, I'm like no, this is what I want, give me this Right. But any other time that that has not happened, I've never been like.
Speaker 1:You know, I would have rather you got what I asked for, because I just feel like that's selfish, not so ungrateful and honestly, quite frankly, nothing, I think. For me, at the end of the day, it's the thought that counts the most. At the end of the day, it's the thought that counts the most. So, and I've not been made feel like if they did not get me what I asked for, then you know the gift was bad otherwise, because in turn, it's always been a good gift anyway. So that's kind of my thoughts.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I for sure have been in situations where, like the person I was in a relationship with got me stuff that I was like, but I never said like like bro, I don't like this, or like you should have just got me this, or like anything like that. You know, I just would like put it in a drawer and never use it and then maybe like get rid of it one day.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 3:And yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, am I being too honest?
Speaker 1:No, I think that's that's fair. Like you know, there's things that I've gotten parents that he still hasn't used or worn. I know that he will at some point. I don't know if he thinks it's a bad gift.
Speaker 2:I am the uno-reversi.
Speaker 1:Matter of fact, I bought Paris an Apple Watch that he barely uses, like literally, will only use it every so often.
Speaker 3:Really.
Speaker 1:Yes, still, to this day, the Apple Watch looks like it's never been used, because it doesn't really get used I don't use mine very much it's so. It's like and I, when I bought it for him, it was like he kept asking for it. He said he wanted it and he said he was going to use it to work out and you know, count his, his steps and yada, yada, yada.
Speaker 2:But here we are today and he literally will only use it if we're traveling or something like that got it, it's so random yeah, uh, yeah, I I don't think being ungrateful, it's like the way to go, yeah, and I don't think like yeah, I don't know I mean yeah, because then that makes sometimes too, like with men, like I feel like sometimes it makes them they're like well, then, next time I'm not even gonna try yeah, and that's the, and that's not even.
Speaker 1:That's not even what we're trying to do here.
Speaker 2:No, you know just listen to what we tell you yes, walk you to it give me one second, I'll be right back. Yeah, so I'm gonna go ahead and pull up my story and I'm gonna start reading that. I just moved it out of the way.
Speaker 1:I just lost my story I was like I thought somebody was knocking at my door and I was like what the fuck?
Speaker 2:oh, it's okay. No, I had a story um, but I I lost it it went away. So, um, let me find a different story, but do you have any like Valentine's horror stories or anything like that yourself?
Speaker 1:Do I have any horror stories? I don't know that I have any horror stories I do. I didn't really start going out on Valentine's or doing anything with like dates, wise on valentine's day and valentine's day, until I got older. But you know, no, not really. I mean, I've been really drunk on valentine's day. But what else is new? No, no horror stories. Nothing that's like been like. You know, I got this motherfucker had me fucked up.
Speaker 2:Um, like he's nothing like that okay yeah, no, okay, so I have another story?
Speaker 2:I don't think I have either. I don't think so either. Nothing comes to mind like that. Okay, so this reddit user said it wasn't a bad date for me, but I was there to witness her worst day. We went to a botanical garden and we were having a good time when suddenly one of her heels breaks off. No problem, I take it and straighten it. Straighten the nail and bang it back so it's at least walkable. Not even 10 minutes later the clasp on her handbag breaks and all of her content spill out of the bags. I'm basically handy, but I wasn't able to fix the cheap clasp and she basically had to football carry it the rest of the time.
Speaker 2:So we're laughing about her, about the tough luck she has, and something small hits her on the top of her head. There was an elevated japanese garden next to the path we were walking so we thought a little kid was throwing tiny pebbles. We ran up to catch the kid, but as we're running I see the top of her head and realize it's not a pebble but a bird crapped on her head. I didn't want to alarm her so I didn't tell her about it and I told her to stop and come over. I grabbed a leaf and wiped the crap off of her head the best I could. She realized and was mortified. I couldn't help but basically laugh in her face. I wasn't laughing at her, but it was so hilarious I couldn't contain myself. I reassured her that everything's alright and sometimes shit happens.
Speaker 1:Literally.
Speaker 2:We went on another date the following week, but she was so shy and embarrassed that we didn't meet up again. Do you feel like?
Speaker 3:that's a sign.
Speaker 1:Well, you're supposed to be good luck when birds shit on you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what I was going to say.
Speaker 1:I don't know about her heel breaking or her purse right.
Speaker 3:I don't know about none of that, because, yeah, like everything's falling apart.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that would have been upsetting for me. Um, I don't know, but I did hear birds. When birds poop on you, that's supposed to be like good luck, so I don't know. What do you think?
Speaker 2:yeah, I have heard that birds pooping on you is good luck. I would say maybe, like the heel and the purse thing would be kind of like a red flag for me. But that's you know. I don't know that I would want to go back on the day. I feel like I might be embarrassed too.
Speaker 1:I mean definitely not on a definitely not on a second date. I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know you think you'd be too embarrassed to go back out? He wiped the shit off of her head with a leaf that's.
Speaker 1:It's crazy, like you're really not gonna go ask for some napkins or something like I mean, at least I guess I just you know, this is when I'd be like men be just doing shit, shit, like I just, oh my god, like you know, like when you talk about having to kind of spoon feed them things and, you know, make sure that they get the right thing. This is what, what I mean, and I know I'm a man and I'm certain in that way with certain things too. Actually, actually and without bashing, I am pretty horrible with buying flowers sometimes. I actually have gotten better over the years. At first I was like I don't know what the fuck to buy, but after a couple of tries, you know, I got my shit together. So and then there's that.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So I have a, so I have one last story and then we can kind of switch gears and it goes. What is the rules around Valentine's Day when you're just starting dating? Our third date will be on Valentine's and we've been speaking since late January. I was gonna get him a few small things like flowers, chocolate and sweets. Is that too much? Is it too soon? We're 24 and 25. What should we do? So what is the rules around dating for valentine's day when you're just starting dating? I went on a I remember my first date that with this guy I was talking to. We were like on and off, messaging back and forth, and we went on a date for valentine's day like that was our first date, like real date yeah, I mean it didn't go anywhere after that, but I don't feel like.
Speaker 2:I feel like people put too much pressure on it, like people on valentine's day yeah, like like people make it seem like like we go to valentine's day if it's something special, like only if we have something like you know.
Speaker 2:And for me it's like, even if we've only been talking for like a month, like you, better do something, my guy, because I can feel that you're the person I'm investing my time with right now and my energy in and if not, we're gonna have to check the list I feel that but just because, like I, you know, like guys, they on some fuck shit and sometimes like they just don't like, though they just I don't know, like, I don't know if it's because they don't want to spend the money or like, or if they're like, oh my god, valentine's day is for like relationships or like you know, and it's like, not even like that, it's just like a day for me, like in spanish.
Speaker 2:Um the like valentine's day in spanish is amor y amistad, which is love and friendship you know, so for me it's like, it's just like a day of love, like showing love and like just feeling love and like that kind of energy you know, I mean, what do you think?
Speaker 1:I don't know. I just I think that I think it also just depends on the person. Some people like all of those grand gestures and all of those things, some people like to do them, and then they're with somebody who doesn't like to receive them all the time. All of that shit depends, right? You know, some people they just don't give a fuck and they don't give a fuck if you do anything. It really just depends on who it is.
Speaker 1:You know, I don't think there's any rules, you know yeah I heard there was a great quote if you want to let them know that you're cooking steak, you gotta come in sizzling, okay, you gotta come in hot honey. If you want them to know, if you want him to know, want him to, you want them to kind of push up on you and let you know that you know they feeling the thing. You got to come in hot.
Speaker 2:Shout out to to craig the writer you know something I've learned in dating too, and being single is like I make it known from the beginning that I like to be spoiled. I like to feel special. Doesn't necessarily mean spoiled like sending me money and things like that, but it means like, um, hey, go buy yourself a coffee. Or like, hey, I sent you some flowers. Like hey, like go get a massage. Like I like that because, like for me, my experience as um a mom, dad, single, like I'll stay, like my kids have a dad, you know. So I don't need someone to come in and like take care of my kids. Um, you know, because I keep those parts of my life separate, and but I want someone to come in and like not take care of me a hundred percent financially, but like take care of my spirit, my heart and, like you know, make me feel special, like just yeah.
Speaker 2:so I I, like you said, I think just making it clear from the beginning like it saves so much time and nonsense.
Speaker 1:I agree, you know, I just yeah, I agree, and I think I still stand by. It's all dependant On the person what you expect. With that being said, so so have you been seeing all of those videos where they um that one person will make the face and the other person make the sound?
Speaker 2:yes, why not Come on?
Speaker 1:It would be so much fun, all right.
Speaker 3:So what I'm thinking is what if we do that on our live?
Speaker 1:Girl, we are live, we're going to do. We could do a couple right now we can, so what we'll do is We'll turn our cameras off. Because you can still hear me, right yeah, and then when for each turn, and then the person will make the sound okay, are you ready?
Speaker 2:yeah, so okay, you make the face first and I'll make the smile. I hate these trends. This is so cringe for me, but I don't know.
Speaker 3:We're gonna do it, we're gonna do it.
Speaker 1:We're gonna do it okay you're making the face yeah, I'll make the. What face do I want to do?
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 1:Ready. I'm going to do it first, and then I'll do it again.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 1:One. I'm going to do it, Okay, so Okay ready, okay, go.
Speaker 2:Oh, I hate you.
Speaker 1:Oh, my god oh, that's funny, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:Okay, you ready uh-huh, um, okay, okay, hold on. Okay, let me. I'm trying to think of like a face that's not similar to what you did. Okay, go.
Speaker 1:Okay, do the example, and then I'll turn my camera off. Okay, One, two three Wait, wait, wait, wait. Let me think of the sound. Hold on, wait, do it again.
Speaker 3:Okay, Okay Please don't make me keep doing it. Hold on, wait, do it again, okay, okay okay, last one two, three oh my god. Dana. Oh my god, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry, I'll quit oh my god.
Speaker 1:Do you know I'd be dead ass cracking up at those videos? Oh my god really yes, I'd be weak. I have an idea okay, okay, are you ready? Okay, yes, make another face, because I have an idea. Okay, okay, are you?
Speaker 3:ready.
Speaker 2:All right, okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1:Let me hide my camera.
Speaker 2:Tell me when. Okay, go, damn oh my.
Speaker 1:God, oh, oh, my goodness girl.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry um, okay, um, hmm, I was gonna use the mic and like to a little okay ready, okay ready, okay ready, ready, okay, okay let's hear you first time, I mean when you're ready ready.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, mic, check one, two, one two. We about to get busy, so let's hit this shit and knock the ck off your parents. Wait, pause, what is that ck off your parents? I'm pretty sure it's.
Speaker 1:It's the coke that's funny um, yes, those videos be cracking me up, particularly the guys. I don't know if you saw the group of guys they're from. Um, I think they're all in the military and they all live in, like arizona. Uh, I sent it to you, but they be cracking me up because they are just goofy and funny and look like a fun butch, a fun group of dudes. Um, but yes, that's where I got it from, uh, anyway. Um, so are you still planning to have your galentine's day on friday?
Speaker 2:I am tomorrow okay, yeah this is my um, my second um, valentine's, and so what? Yeah?
Speaker 1:what makes a successful valentine's day for all the singles out there so for the singles.
Speaker 2:But I also have like my married, like my friends are also like married and stuff. But usually we'll just do like um, like girls, and then I invite you and um, we like, I think, just having snacks and like wine and um, just coming together.
Speaker 2:Uh, we'll do like games for this time and like painting, um, and I think, any excuse, um, like this group that I'm doing it with this group that I'm doing it with tomorrow. We all have kids and we're all like, um, we just have busy lives, you know, like we work and everything. So I think for me it's like some girl time to like get cute.
Speaker 2:Yeah, be some like feminine um and you know, sip your wine or whatever cocktail you want and just like loosen up and, um, just have fun. You know, like for me that's important and like surround yourself with like love in a friendship form. You know, yeah, because even if you're not, because there's people that are married, that don't celebrate or don't, you know their partner doesn't put the effort or have you know ups and downs or whatever.
Speaker 2:So just you know, having a day like to feel special with each other and just like you know that feminine empowerment together and having conversations, you know, relating and connecting and and laughing and just having fun yeah, I love that.
Speaker 1:Um, our pictures from last year keep coming up. Are you gonna have the light ring again?
Speaker 2:I am gonna put. Um, I'm trying to get a light ring. I was thinking, yeah, I was going to tell you maybe if I can borrow the one that we have for the thing, if I can get one in time. But I am making a backdrop and I think that's fun too right, because moms want to feel like baddies too, and women in general we want to take. Like baddies too, and like women we want to in general, like we want to take cute pictures, you know, and just like pop out oh, that's right, I'm supposed to be bringing cupcakes oh yeah, and also I ordered um I'll be posting and tagging her like on, probably like my personal one and and my, my hella cheese, my one.
Speaker 2:But I ordered um a cheesecake, like a biscoff cheesecake from um, like a local business, so I'm excited to try. It looks bomb.
Speaker 1:I picked it up today and it looks oh that good, and what time do I need to be there?
Speaker 2:I told everyone 637.
Speaker 1:Okay, sounds good. Well, that's going to be fun.
Speaker 2:Red or pink Attire.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's interesting Because I have to find something red to wear to work tomorrow.
Speaker 2:I have faith in you.
Speaker 1:I'll probably be in pink. Yeah, but the pink that I have is like the shorts are so short. It's gonna be so cold what about the top?
Speaker 2:the top is completely see-through oh, you could like a tank underneath.
Speaker 1:I mean, it kind of takes away from it.
Speaker 2:But oh, don't worry about it. It's fine got it throw a cardigan from it, but don't worry about it, it's fine, got it. Throw a cardigan on, it's fine, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:No, I'll probably go. It's almost eight o'clock. I'll probably go in the morning and find something before I go into the office and then I'll wear, find something else to wear tomorrow night, because I also need something to wear on next week on actual Valentine's Day, to actually celebrate Valentine. But I probably will need to get me like a red beanie, you know, because I can't shave yet, because you know I sliced a hole in my head. There's that.
Speaker 1:Please explain to the people what you mean by that last week I was shaving my head and, um, I shaved a little too hard. You can't really see it anymore, but I really. I shaved like a gnarly slice of skin off my, off my scalp, and um, yeah, it was pretty bad. It was like bright red and it finally started to heal and scab over. So now we're just letting it heal, ladies and gentlemen, and we'll see what happens. But I can't shave until I have, until it, until the scab can come off and then it's like are fully, like 100%, healed, because if I shave it and then end up like scabbing it again, it could be even worse than it was so that's my life right now.
Speaker 1:Um, I've been wondering if my job will let me come in with beanies on and wear them throughout the day, but I don't know if they'll let me, unfortunately, no that's crazy maybe I could submit a work accommodation yeah and tell them that I need to be accommodated until this gap on my head feels and tell them that I need to be accommodated until the scab on my head heals.
Speaker 2:That's great. Okay, so when you did that, were you like? Or? Were you like yeah, because the blood started like leaking down my head, Did I not?
Speaker 1:I didn't show you the picture. Let me see if I can find the picture. No, don't tell me that. It doesn't look that bad.
Speaker 2:Dude, imagine like I freaking scream when I shave. It doesn't look that bad. Dude, imagine like I freaking scream when I shave my leg and I slice that shit. Imagine your head like ugh. No.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was like where is this picture? Yeah, I was getting, and then I was getting ready to go into the office like right after that, which was the fucked up part, because, oh, here it is, because, um, can you see it?
Speaker 1:yes see if it moves, you see it it doesn't look as big as it actually was in the picture, but yeah, yeah, it was pretty bad. Um, and then I had to go into the office right after that. The funny part is my co-worker before that had kind of accidentally stabbed herself in the eye with her fingernail and like popped her blood vessel. I was like girl, we're hazards there's something wrong the blind leading the blind.
Speaker 1:It's too much going on um yeah you know we need to call it a day, right, um, but anyway, we just wanted to come on, hang out with you guys for a little bit, chat it up about Valentine's Day. I know this is short, but we haven't really been live. We thought it'd be fun.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I wanted to say some Valentine affirmation. What do you think? Oh, okay, go ahead. Yes, I'm down for that. Okay, so some self-love ones. So use these, write these down, say them to yourself in the mirror, while you're in the car, whatever, um, but some self-love affirmations are I am worthy of sorry, I thought it threw me out here, sorry about that. So, um, I am worthy of love with my flaws and all with my flaws and all I am proud of who I'm becoming.
Speaker 2:um, I accept my failures, but they do not define me. I am grateful for this mind, body and soul. I have the power to design my future. I am motivated, focused and capable. This is a good one. I won't apologize for expressing my thoughts and feelings and affirmations for attracting love. I trust the universe to bring me the love I deserve. I am ready for a relationship that aligns with my highest good, and I am deserving of a love that feels easy and joyful. Those are all cute.
Speaker 3:I love that.
Speaker 1:I love that. And what was the last one? Again, read the last one.
Speaker 2:I am deserving of a love that feels easy and joyful.
Speaker 1:I like that.
Speaker 2:So those are some affirmations. You know that like they're, it's good to speak them into yourself. I listen to affirmations like once a week I don't know if you've ever done that like on youtube I'll put like um feminine affirmations or like self-love affirmations and I play them while I'm getting ready before work and I don't know. It's pretty cool, I I play them for my kids, sometimes too, like on their way to school, and I have them repeat it and like speak it to themselves yes, I, um, I don't listen to I.
Speaker 1:I will read one before I would listen to them. Um, and I, you know well we do them here, so obviously I keep up with, like different ones. I do follow this new which I posted on the Hella Cheese Made podcast Instagram and I think it's we at we urban and they do different affirmations. I also follow that other Instagram profile and they do the little cartoon like sings, little song.
Speaker 2:Affirmation songs, oh, that's cute or different, like songs.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what is it called?
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's called we, the Urban. You know, snoop Dogg has an affirmation. That's the name of the instagram page yes, we the urban.
Speaker 1:Now what you saying about snoop dogg?
Speaker 2:I forgot. We're mad at snoop dogg, but um, I can't keep up anymore girl it's hard.
Speaker 1:He's the. He's the biggest, he's the most. Person that I'm disappointed the most with well, one of the people that I'm disappointed the most with because he talked all that shit in the beginning he has a kids affirmation song and Amaya loves it of course she does.
Speaker 2:She goes today is gonna be an amazing day, Today's going to be an amazing day. And then he starts like my feelings matter and it's so cute. My feelings matter.
Speaker 1:Oh, my feelings matter, oh, that's cute.
Speaker 2:It's a cute album.
Speaker 1:Well, Amaya can listen to whoever she wants um because she's amaya and she's a child.
Speaker 2:So yeah, there's that um, on my way to my dad's house, there's this house that has a massive cactus and this is the second or third time that we passed that house and amaya goes. I I was telling them. I said, oh, look at that cactus, it's so big, it's pretty, and Amaya's like that's Dana's. So then today we passed by and she goes. She goes, mommy, that's Dana's. So she thinks like because you guys have a huge cactus in your yard. So now she thinks that all cactus are yours. All large cactus are yours.
Speaker 3:Well.
Speaker 1:I do like them large.
Speaker 2:Large and prickly.
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