Hella Chisme Podcast
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Welcome back to another episode of the Hella Chisme Podcast. Join us this week, as we kick off fall with some exciting anecdotes and share how the cooler temperatures are transforming our routines. We also tackle some intense stories sourced from Reddit. Picture conservative grandparents clashing with their LGBTQ+ grandson and his supportive uncles, or a woman navigating a difficult pregnancy amid sharp criticism from her mother-in-law.
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Speaker 2:That's my favorite word. Why they gotta say it like short? You know they can't play on my court, can't hang with the big dogs. They, on the porch, blow the whistle, blow the whistle, blow the whistle, blow the whistle. Ey, pero no hay boda titi. Me pregunto si tengo muchas novias, muchas novias.
Speaker 1:Hoy tengo a una mañana a otra, me la voy a llevar a la toa con VIP. Welcome back to the.
Speaker 2:Hella Chisme podcast. Here in the middle of our lovely fall forest Right next to me, you'll see, I have a lovely. Or to the right of me, you'll see a lovely burning fire. Don't want to get too close. Ooh, almost burned yourself, but it's here to keep us nice and warm. And then we have some lovely jack-o'-lanterns to the left and we have some gourds. Isn't that what they're called? Gourds, gourds, gourds and pumpkins.
Speaker 1:Gurds.
Speaker 2:Gurds, oh, it's fall. Welcome back to another episode of Hella Cheesemade Podcast. My name is Dana.
Speaker 1:And I'm Stephanie.
Speaker 2:And we are your host. Yes, oh my God, it is. Well, it is full-fledged fall now.
Speaker 1:It is.
Speaker 2:That heat wave that we were complaining about last week is officially gone.
Speaker 1:Bruh, it's crazy.
Speaker 2:Honey, I mean it literally says Actually we're supposed to have. It's supposed to warm back up again.
Speaker 1:It is.
Speaker 2:For like.
Speaker 1:This weekend.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for like two and a half days oh really yeah, I mean it's gonna be 82 and it's gonna drop to 59. So what that really means is, like, at 12 noon it's gonna be 82 degrees and by two o'clock it'll be 70 right, oh my gosh they said oh, you thought you thought you was about to get summer back. No girl, it's not coming, it's not here anymore. You complained. Now you can say sorry, nora right so, but that's fine. Um, how's it going? What's been going on? Tell me all the stories.
Speaker 1:It's been a minute it has, um, I'm doing good I have. Um, one of my friends is getting married on sunday, so I have a bachelorette like party outing on friday it's like a bar crawl and then, um, sunday is the wedding nice so I'm excited for that. I'm looking forward to it. Um, and what did I do this weekend? I think this weekend I just did like um, my son's baseball, and then, oh my god, I can't remember this past weekend yes.
Speaker 1:I don't know no, um anyways. Yeah, so my son had a, uh, had a game, two games for sure. He had a tournament, um, so that that took up like most of my weekend. Um, and luckily it was a little fresher this past weekend. It wasn't as hot. I was completely over the heat wave, especially doing like the sports and everything in there. I feel like I've been back in the gym this week.
Speaker 2:Wow.
Speaker 1:I'm trying to prioritize that. I've had a couple of like all staff meetings, which those are always fun and great and my highlight was winning a Target gift card.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Love that for myself yes and, yeah, that's like I'm really looking forward to this weekend. Um, I don't have my kids, you know, I have the bachelorette thing and then the wedding and then just like it should be a good time this weekend yeah, that should be fun, I mean especially if it's going to be kind of warm and it's like cowgirl theme, so you know we're gonna have like the little cowgirl hats and the. I'll be rocking my boots and my. I got like a fringe skirt um, so it should be fun.
Speaker 2:That's gonna be cute. So oh wait, you did just say you're gonna have a Calgary hat, so where y'all gonna go out at?
Speaker 1:So we're gonna start At Mr Temple in downtown For dinner. And then we're gonna go to like Double Deuce and Whiskey Girl and Country Vibes and I'm excited for Sunday because I got my. It's like rockabilly vibes or like pinup vibes, I guess, and we have to wear all black. So I got like my black pencil, uh dress and um had like the red lip and I did order the red pumps oh so the so it's.
Speaker 2:The bachelorette is the night before the wedding, like traditionally, like it usually is.
Speaker 1:Friday is the bachelorette, and then the wedding is Sunday, so Saturday is like a recovery day or whatever.
Speaker 2:Okay, and that's all local, so that's good. Well, that's going to be fun. I'm excited. How are you feeling about, especially since you're not drinking?
Speaker 1:I was thinking about that and I was like, oh my gosh, I should take like a little vape or something just to kind of, you know, have a little something. But no, I'll be good. I mean or it is gonna be like the first time I hit downtown like sober and should be interesting.
Speaker 2:I mean, yeah, I'm sure it'll be fun. And I mean, yeah, I'm sure it'll be fun. And I mean I guess, if you need anything, just you know, take an edible with your little gummy, a little gummy or something, and you can always get a sparkling water. It's always, they always have those with some lemon or lime. Whenever I'm not drinking, that's what I usually do is get like a sparkling water or some shit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's usually what I'll get yeah, well, that sounds fun.
Speaker 2:Um, how were the the children playing games? Uh, this weekend they do any sports.
Speaker 1:Yes, Junior actually did really good and then he's going to be pitching for a team this weekend as well. He's been doing really really good, Thank God.
Speaker 2:That's good. And then Amaya is on a break right now, isn't she?
Speaker 1:Yeah, she's on a break. She starts next week.
Speaker 2:Okay. Okay, Well you know, back into the swing of things. And it's about to cool. It is clearly cooling down.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:How was?
Speaker 1:your weekend. Tell me all about it.
Speaker 2:Oh, my goodness. Well, if you can't tell, I'm I'm nursing a little bit of a cold. I got sick on like the last, I think on like the last night, was it Like the late at night, I started to feel like I had like a sore throat, and the next morning I woke up with a sore throat. And then now here we are, thursday. I've been nursing this cold all week. However, last Tuesday, when I left work, was my last day at work to go on vacation, and we drove up to Palm Springs Thursday morning and it was nice, like as soon as we got there. It was warm, it was high, it was like 99 degrees when we got there, so we couldn't check into our Airbnb yet.
Speaker 2:So Paris and I kind of wandered down in the downtown area, um, and just okay, we went to uh h m because I was looking for some shirts for work. So now that it's starting to cool down, I'm trying to find some stuff for fall and winter. Um, because all of the stuff that I had, because all of the stuff that I had, the little bit of things I had, it's time to let that go. So just looking for some things for the fall and winter. So looking for some shirts, maybe a couple of sweaters or something, but I didn't really find anything. And then we wandered in sephora um, where I found this new moisture, this new tinted moisturizer by fenty that I need to go back and buy, because I didn't buy it that day. So I was like, let me, because I had it on my hand, I was like, let me see if I like it throughout the day. Right and so, um. So then you know, obviously, you didn't like it I did.
Speaker 2:I why I? Obviously I washed it off because I washed my hands not not too shortly after being at sephora, so but, um, but yeah, I do want to go get it. Because I was like, oh, I would wear this Like it's moisturizing. I'm not getting up in the morning doing anything else to my face, especially not for work, unless like it has to be like something like big going on. So I was like I would wear this like daily, I would you know, that's easy.
Speaker 2:I can do my morning routine. Put this on this is perfect. So I definitely think I do my morning routine. Put this on this is perfect. So I definitely think I'm gonna go back and get that. But yeah, so we wandered around downtown. Then we finally went to the house. The house was cute Really. Yes, it was very, very cute house. I didn't necessarily particularly care for it being that close to downtown, but this time we did go out this time, which normally we wouldn't um. So it was perfect for what we did.
Speaker 2:um with going out to dinner one of the nights while being there um and how was it when you guys went out?
Speaker 2:it was. We just went to the restaurant because so it's hilarious because the day, like, mostly all we do is sit around all day eat, drink and be in the pool and watch tv. Um, so that day we knew we had to be up sorry, we knew we had to be up and out. We literally, I think around like two, three o'clock, people were just like I'm gonna go take a nap, and then we also were doing our happy hours, right? So usually when we get like a big space like this and everybody has like their own little patio, we'll host a happy hour. Each person, each couple, has to host a happy hour. So we were doing that.
Speaker 2:So I mean, at like 1 30 noon or 12 30 noon, uh, one o'clock, we were like I mean I'm pretty sure everybody was buzzing at that because we had like tried this vodka shot. I made these Hennessy shots, so we pretty much was down and everybody was like going to go take a nap. So, and so then we went out to this restaurant called Trio and it was okay, it wasn't the, it wasn't the food wasn't terrible. Um, I also didn't really order anything like super crazy. I got this pasta that was actually really good, with shiitake mushrooms and like shrimp.
Speaker 2:Um so it was okay. Um, but we, we went back to the house after that and everybody got back into the pool and went to bed. So it was fun. I mean, it was a good time. And I don't know if you saw, but I also tried the Sir Davis this weekend. So if you follow me on the Instagram, you can go see my live where I tried it with everyone that was there and that was good. But now, realizing that my phone after going live today, while I was setting up my phone, you can't really hear much because there's probably still water damage on the inside. And when I dropped it in the pool for pride, yeah, there's that. So, but Sir Davis was delicious.
Speaker 1:I was going to say what did you think?
Speaker 2:I thought it was good. I thought it tastes like a, so when I tried it, I tried it while it was still hot, I didn't put any ice on it but when I did drink it with the ice, I thought it was much better like that. I thought it was much better with ice and, like you know, just like straight and on the rocks, very smooth. It has a very nice honey taste to it.
Speaker 2:Um, it's very, very good um is is better than what, because usually I would drink like um makers and makers is good too, but it doesn't have. It just has that smoky woodsy flavor, and this had that smoky, woodsy and like honey flavor. It was very good delicious 10 out of 10.
Speaker 2:Great job Beyonce of course, any constructive criticism about it or it was, it was the only constructive criticism I have is that why the fuck did I have to go to palm springs to find it? Because, and then, not to mention the only the only reason I found it was because I was paying for other shit. And I have looked up and I saw the box and like by chance, like I was looking down about to pull out my car, looking up and was like y'all got sir davis here and she said, yeah, it was in the case. I was like, girl, go get that and I need that now. Asap Rocky, asap Rocky, miss, like I need you to bring it right on back to this counter. That's my only constructive criticism.
Speaker 2:Otherwise, it was delicious, yes, so, but yeah, the rest of the trip was nice, paris, and I got to spend a day alone in the house on the Sunday, um, and we got up and leisurely left on Monday and got here like mid-afternoon and then I was already starting to feel sick. So, um, I didn't work. I worked from home on Tuesday and then went into the office on Wednesday, came home, still felt like shit Wednesday and work from home today and then I'll go back tomorrow, but honestly, we'll see if I go in and actually in person, because earlier today I was still feeling like ugh.
Speaker 1:Yeah. You sound like your throat is a little bit irritated and my kids have had a dry cough as well. I think it's just like the hot and cold and then the AC and everything else. It irritates like your throat.
Speaker 2:Yes, and the AC where we were sleeping was literally in front of us, like in front of where I was sleeping, the unit, like my bed, was like right here and the unit was right there in front of me and it was one of those uh, I don't know like a mini split them. Yes, it was one of those splits and I mean the motherfucker was blowing like in my face and we had it on like 64 degrees until finally we turned it up to like 70 yeah um, so I mean, I'm pretty sure that's probably what fucked me up and it was like warm and humid so I'm pretty sure, none of that helped um.
Speaker 2:So that was my vacation um and it was fantabulous. I'm happy to be back um you're nice and relaxed.
Speaker 2:I am nice and relaxed, you know I am. I slept. At one point I did feel like we were all on our phones and then I finally was like girl, you are on vacation, put this phone down, um. And so I think I did pretty good with not being on my phone a lot while I was there. That was a good portion of what I wanted, um, I just wanted to really just decompress, disconnect. I made sure to do all my homework that I could do beforehand so I wouldn't have to do it there. I also even told my professor I was going to turn this assignment in late, which I turned in last night. So I just didn't. I didn't really want to have to worry about doing nothing.
Speaker 1:And I did it. So, accomplished.
Speaker 2:I plan to do the same thing next month when I go to Hawaii.
Speaker 1:I plan to do that when I go to La Paz.
Speaker 2:That's right, she's going on a vacation.
Speaker 1:A vacation.
Speaker 2:A vacation with a man. Was I not supposed to say that? I'm going on a trip, on a vacation you're gonna go get on a your favorite rocket ship.
Speaker 1:That's right I'm excited, though I've been wanting to go to La Paz for a long time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I love that. You're going to have to tell me all about it. I have heard. What was that? Was it La Paz? No, it was the other one, oaxaca.
Speaker 1:That's where I want to go to.
Speaker 2:Very pretty. Yeah, maybe we can play that sometime next year For your birthday or something.
Speaker 1:I want to go in the fall?
Speaker 2:Like during the fall, is it supposed to be better during that time? Yeah, the Day of the Dead event, like all kinds of events, they shut the streets down and they do like big parades and the women with the makeup and the dresses and everything. Is it like halloween?
Speaker 1:wait, when is day of the dead again, november 2nd november.
Speaker 2:That's what I thought november 2nd but, no, it's not really costumes.
Speaker 1:It's more like um flowers, like the marigolds, and then the big beautiful flacorico dresses, um music and like um dancing and food and everything like that. It's more celebrating.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'll be down for that yeah to go there, and then I mean stay during the fall. It's still technically kind of warm there, I know oh, it's still warm.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like 80s yeah so that would be fun.
Speaker 2:It'll be fun um, okay, well, let's get into what we gonna be getting into today. Um, we can take a small little break and then we'll be right back yeah, we can take a small little break and then we'll be right back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and we are back. So this week we are doing some monster in law stories. So I believe we both pulled our resources from two different spots, but all from our favorite platform, reddit, which, by the way, we are going to be working on putting together our own forum where people can post, and so we're working on that. We're just trying to figure out the kinks, but until then, like I've mentioned before, in the underneath in the description section, there is a link that says join the conversation, where you can send us messages and texts to join the conversation or send us thoughts based on what we were talking about. So, but also we will be working on the Reddit part part. But, um, this week we are going to be talking about some monster in law stories from, um, mine that I pulled was from the and I am I the asshole section. Uh, because I wanted some. I wanted a little bit more of some funnier stories or stories that like because you know these people be wilding on reddit. So I was like where?
Speaker 1:where's that?
Speaker 2:Yes, I want the mess. So that's what I found. I found two pretty good ones. The first one is am I the asshole for snapping at my mom's, at my wife's parents, for implying that our son's uncles are making him gay?
Speaker 2:Here we go, me, my wife and our friends, jack and Nathan and Susie all grew up together. We went to the same church, the same schools and we were all drama geeks together. We're basically a family school and they live close by and they live close by their boys, and their boys names are zach and caleb uh, one's 12 and one's 15. They spend a lot of time with um, with jack and nathan, and they know them as uncles. Um and the wife's parents has never liked that. Her parents are pretty conservative and homophobic and tried to get my wife to cut off Jack and Nathan when they officially came out in college. She refused.
Speaker 2:Ever since Caleb could talk, he's been a theater kid, like I was, and, while not feminine, he's never been super interested in stereotypical guy stuff, which my in-laws have always implied was because he spends so much time with his uncles or would sickly imply that they were doing something to make him gay. Normally, I'll let it slide, because we don't see them a lot and I know my wife hates fighting with her parents, but Caleb came out to us last Friday on his birthday. My in-laws gave him this disappointed look and he just got up and ran to his room. Me and my wife and Zach tried to comfort him, but he's still been moping. Yesterday the in-laws came over saying that they were praying for Caleb and told me that it was my fault because I left him around deviants like Jack and Nathan and they made him gay, basically implying that they did something.
Speaker 2:I just got pissed off and told them to get the fuck out and not to come back. They said they were just trying to help Caleb and I screamed at them and they have. I screamed at them that they have helped enough and my wife had to get me to calm down while they left. We've been getting calls from her family saying that I'm an asshole for threatening her parents that way and causing a fight between them and my wife. My parents think I went too far and I shouldn't have reacted like that. Am I the asshole?
Speaker 1:okay, where do we start, friend?
Speaker 2:I mean, that's a great question. Where do you want to start?
Speaker 1:um. My question is like how do you make someone gay?
Speaker 2:yes, that's a great question. That is a great where place to start. Matter of fact, we can pull over right there before we even start moving e-break e-break. That's a great question. I, I think, um, we've all been trying to figure that out for the people of the world who believe that people can just be made gay, because, when I tell you, if I had the choice, I would have had a dollar. None of them, not none of them.
Speaker 1:I double, I'm straight and I double back on that exactly okay, so come on now.
Speaker 2:The other part is is that you know, I can't stand when adults put such pressure on kids when they are such a young age. It's okay that this young man has identified himself to be. They actually didn't specify if he was gay or bi or whatever.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:It's okay for him to express that he doesn't feel like he is into whomever he's not into.
Speaker 2:Because again they didn't specify that. But also, let these motherfucking kids live as long as they're being safe. As long as they're being safe, as long as they're not doing anything to harm anyone, as long as they are. You know consent is. They know that consent is a thing they're, you know I it's going to be fine at the end of the day. Like, please just let these kids live their life and decide who they want to be based on how they feel on the inside and who they are on the inside. I mean, you know, like all the rest of that shit. I hate when adults do that, especially to, especially to like preteens and teenagers.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:It's horrible.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So to that I will say no, you're not the asshole. Your in-laws are Right.
Speaker 1:I, yeah, I agree on that.
Speaker 2:You know I just it's, I'm not going to go into my it's 2024, you know spiel, because at this point um people should know that and I'm not surprised with the bullshit that continues to come up and come out um in the world. You know.
Speaker 1:But yeah, there's a difference between somebody being like disrespectful or if you just don't agree with somebody's like life choices or lifestyle or whatever, but then that's where it comes in of, like you know. Is it you that needs to self-reflect, or what's the real issue here?
Speaker 2:Right, and you telling this man's father that, because they let them hang out with these two gay men that they've assumed putting out there that they could have done something to this boy to make him gay, like what do you think they did? Waved like a wand. Sprinkle fairy dust, ride their unicorn like, and then of course you're probably, they're probably insinuating that it was something sexual and I'm just like that shit gets on my fucking nerves right like cut it the fuck out yes um, so yeah, I would not say he's the asshole.
Speaker 2:Definitely would say that in-laws are. I feel like in-laws always feel like they need to overstep their bounds and not stay in the place that they need to, which is the in-laws.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:And the grandparents.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Because what has been chosen is that they want to continue to have them in your life. That has definitely been a choice, because if they choose not to, then you're gonna be butthurt about it right exactly so, um, before we read your first story, uh, let's take a small break and then we will uh come back and get into what you got got it bye, come back and get into what you got, got it.
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Speaker 1:Bye and we're back all right, so my story is from reddit and um, the title of it is my mother-in-law told my husband he is enabling me to be lazy and that I'm starving our fetus.
Speaker 2:What the fuck? Okay go ahead.
Speaker 1:Shall we proceed? Okay, so it's kind of lengthy, but it says to start. My husband and I were very close best friends who decided to elope when we actually admitted feelings for each other. Um, we were long distance and he moved to my state after the elopement and I met my mother-in-law twice before eloping and both times she was pleasant. We found out a few months ago that I'm pregnant, despite an infertility diagnosis on my end and vasectomy on my husband's. That's crazy, and it has not been an easy pregnancy in the slightest Gestational diabetes, total food aversion and reduced appetite all throughout At the same time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, wait. So the husband had a vasectomy and still got her pregnant, had a vasectomy and still got her pregnant and she's had gestational diabetes and she's been having. Um what else? That version, food aversion, what is that? When you're like thing for that?
Speaker 1:I don't know it's okay, go ahead, I'll look it up um, maybe it's like uh, when you get I don't know how to say in english like, ask us, like when things like grows you out and like um, because with junior, everything grows me out out. I had a lot of nausea, and is that what it is?
Speaker 2:A strong dislike for a particular food. The sight, smell or taste of food causes you to feel nauseous or makes you gag. Okay. So, like the typical, okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1:Like smells. Yeah, and at the same time I'm a full-time student in my last semester and full-time employee. Between both school and work. I'm out of the house for 70 to 80 hours a week. My husband works overnight, so we see each other for maybe one or two hours a day for the four days of the week. He works. For the four days of the week he works. Since my husband has more free time, he takes care of the cleaning and tells me to go rest when I'm home. I will admit the house is not spotless. It's definitely disorganized and lived in, but there's no trash on the floor or counters, no rotting food, no weird smells. The bathroom is clean, but the counters are cluttered, yet not dirty.
Speaker 1:My mother-in-law decided to come visit recently and stayed in our guest room. She met my parents and sisters and she surprised me with a clean house. One day, while I was at work, she even offered to come paint the nursery. I thought all of this was very nice and thoughtful until she left, and then my mother told me that my mother-in-law told her that the house was a pigsty, that I was lazy and my husband was enabling in, was enabling me to be lazy. Then my husband told me that his mother told him the same thing and she said he shouldn't have married me because I was using him for his money, even though I'm the breadwinner.
Speaker 1:I should have dropped out of school as soon as I found out I was pregnant and that she watched me eat and that I've lost too much weight and I'm trying to kill our unborn child. She told my father she was going to move my husband and I back home so she can make sure I was a fit mother. So now I don't know how I feel about her indifferent, mad, I don't know. I'm trying the best I can. It's just frustrating. Anyways, thanks for coming to my rant.
Speaker 2:What the fuck the mother-in-law is wild I I mean this lady's about to push a whole ass human on her pussy right, I'm like I didn't mean to say it like that, but I mean, girl, she's about to push this human out of her body, and then she has ingested. She has ingested diabetes, which for literally, when that happens, you literally have to watch every single thing you eat.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:I mean that's horrible. And then, on top of her having to watch everything she eats, she's throwing up everything she's eating. Yes, or just like nothing sounds appetizing.
Speaker 1:Nothing sounds appetizing nothing sounds appetizing, very like, and I know that feeling uh-huh when I was like pregnant with junior.
Speaker 2:Like I'm talking about uh-huh, like I know the feeling I've seen I've seen the women go through it right, sis right when I had a little tom-tom girl I threw up every five minutes ghetto ghetto fuckery the fuck I can't believe. Her mother-in-law called her fucking lazy and and went so far to say that he shouldn't have remarried her because she was using him for his money. Girl, get the fuck out of here.
Speaker 1:Friend, let me tell you something. When I don't know like other cultures are, like racist and stuff, but a Latina like if my mother-in-law comes and cleans my house, that's not a kind favor gesture, no, that's like bitch, your house is dirty like I'm gonna clean this because it looks a mess it's a mess yeah, yeah so that's like the first, like red flag to me, yeah. And then just like the audacity to like tell the own mother like your daughter is lazy or like dirty my mom would have.
Speaker 2:Bop that hoe across her face.
Speaker 1:Yeah, check that hoe.
Speaker 2:Check that hoe. That's crazy, I mean. But the other thing I think about is why wasn't the husband cleaning?
Speaker 1:And why didn't he stand up for her?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we didn't hear any of that. Is there any edits to that?
Speaker 1:no, like he.
Speaker 2:Just maybe he's like um a daddy's girl, I mean our mommy's boy, whatever the other question I have is how did they get to the decision of him getting a vasectomy if they knew at some point they wanted to have kids?
Speaker 1:I mean, they did say they had been friends for like a long time, so maybe they're already like older.
Speaker 2:Interesting. Ok, you know, I want power to her. Shout out to you sis's right, mama, because girl, girl okay so this is um. So the next one I'm going to read is pretty funny. So it is. Am I the asshole for finally telling my mother-in-law that her mac and cheese tastes terrible?
Speaker 2:Woo All right here we go, so, um. So this is a married couple, a man and a woman. The husband is 30, the girl is 28, so my husband and I've been married for two years, together for five and uh, she's currently six months pregnant. The wife is. We are very excited and blessed because I've had some complications in getting pregnant. I've had a very good relationship with my in-laws and if any of us had any problems we were able to talk it through, except for one thing.
Speaker 2:My mother-in-law has her famous mac and cheese that everyone in their family absolutely loves. I, however, found it disgusting on day one. I didn't want to come off as rude and ungrateful, so I pulled it together without saying anything. I told my husband about it and he said his mother has been making it for decades, perfecting the recipe, and she would be deeply offended if anyone told her that anything um told her anything bad about her mac and cheese. So so I should just find my right moment to tell her um, he for some reason loves it. So he didn't want to be the one to tell her, which I totally understood, because it's my issue and I have to deal with it. It's been almost two years of me pretending so two days ago. I've decided to just tell her I was um. So two days ago I decided to just tell her.
Speaker 2:It was a family dinner. My husband's parents had invited us over and and of course, his mother was making her so-called famous mac and cheese. I almost threw up at the smell and I couldn't bear the thought of eating it, probably because I was pregnant. So at dinner, when I was offered the mac and cheese, I politely declined and said no, thank you. My mother-in-law looked at me and asked why. She said why you should eat Good for the baby, and I just went right out with it. I'm sorry, but I don't like your mac and cheese. Everything else tastes delicious, but this is the one thing I simply cannot eat anymore. She looked so deeply offended and she literally snapped Well, thanks for being honest. And didn't even look or speak to me. For the rest of the evening my husband was on my side and tried to speak to his mother, but all I know is that it didn't work because she has been cold to me ever since.
Speaker 2:There's more, I'm waiting. Okay, I wanted to see if you were gonna ask any questions before I kept going. All right, so what's wrong with the mac and cheese. Her perfect recipe Ended up with these results Mac and cheese combined with salmon, kimchi, pineapple, seaweed, salad, collard, greens, onions and garlic. I don't have a problem with the greens or onions, but the rest tastes so disgustingly wrong with mac and cheese. However, the reason why I think I might've been an asshole is because my husband said she has been perfecting this recipe for years. Her entire family clearly loves it and tells her that her um and tells her that her perfect and loved mac and cheese is terrible. So is she the asshole? And loved mac and cheese is terrible. So is she the asshole for telling that her mother-in-law that mac and cheese is horrible?
Speaker 1:After hearing all of that no, what the fuck. Kimchi and mac and cheese With salmon and seaweed salad girl that's if I was pregnant and you, I would freaking. I'd be gagging too I mean to start.
Speaker 2:I can only assume that she's also baking this mac and cheese. So imagine first of all, have you ever had a kimchi?
Speaker 1:I've had kimchi.
Speaker 2:Yes, so we know, both you and I both know here, right here, right now, that kimchi has a little bit of fish oil in it.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:And then it has salmon, then we're talking about salmon, so we are double baking fish, not just the oil, so it's fishy. And then the salmon. That makes it more fishy.
Speaker 1:And then the seaweed has like that ocean. Also my question is do the kids really like it, or do they just tell her that?
Speaker 2:they probably really like it.
Speaker 1:So that's insane. That's I'm like are you just trying to be nice, like let's out looking around the room? Like guys, let's all come on. I'm starting the. Let's anyone want to chime in now?
Speaker 2:is there anything you want to add? So there's an edit. I did tell her that because I'm pregnant, it wasn't possible for me to stomach the ingredients, but she still didn't want to talk to me stomach.
Speaker 1:The ingredients is stomach. The ingredients is wild girl first of all, she should have stopped she stopped.
Speaker 2:She should have just left it at. I don't like it, I can't eat it, and never said anything else. So she then goes on to say I'm French, my husband's family is Korean, which when I saw the kimchi and the seaweed salad I was like girl, you didn't have to tell us this, I mean, I already knew. So that will explain their ingredients. She says I do enjoy salmon, kimchi and seaweed salads, but it's greatly depends on which dish it's served with, and since I've been pregnant, I've even developed okay, we're talking about aversion to several foods that I used to love. I mean girl.
Speaker 1:Hell no.
Speaker 2:It's a no for me. I just it's no.
Speaker 1:It's like that's too much, it's me.
Speaker 2:One of the comments says at that point it's not mac and cheese. It's me. One of the comments says at that point it's not mac and cheese, it's quiche quiche.
Speaker 2:I mean honestly. And then somebody says, to be honest, it's the cheese that messes everything up in the combination salmon, kimchi, pineapple, etc. All that sounds. And then somebody says, to be honest, it's the cheese that messes everything up in the combination Salmon, kimchi, pineapple, etc. All that sounds like they could go. The noodles make it a little odd, but would be fine. Then you add cheese and it goes. What the fuck?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I agree, yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2:Honestly, for me the pineapple, the pineapple is really where, you know, I start to go left Because I just I'm like I think the cheese and noodles for me, well, mac and cheese already has cheese and noodles, yeah. So that's not really where I start to get disturbed. So the mac and cheese, the macaroni, the elbow noodles, let's say the elbow noodles and the cheese, we already know those is going together. That's what's in the mac and cheese, that's the staple.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I'm saying like that other stuff could possibly be good, separate Absolutely With like a white rice or something 100% I'm here with you with like a white rice or something.
Speaker 2:100% I'm here with you. I, even if somebody said I made a salmon mac and cheese, I would say, okay, that's fine, because now we're kind of in like the tuna casserole area. It's a baked pasta. At this point there's crab mac and cheese.
Speaker 1:There's lobster, mac and cheese so you know we're good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll try it, I'll, I'll, I'll take a little dipsy. Then you tell me we're putting kimchi. Then I'm like is this going to be a garnish? Are you going to set it on top Right and is there a little lemon that's going to go on top.
Speaker 1:Ew lemon with mac and cheese.
Speaker 2:Baby, I need to kill all the fish tastes. It has to all go Because I already know with the salmon it's going to be a little fishy.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:It's going to be giving.
Speaker 1:And they can be strong.
Speaker 2:Baby.
Speaker 1:Swimmer chicken of the sea.
Speaker 2:They can be chicken of the sea. I can't.
Speaker 1:Excuse me, mac and cheese of the sea. Interesting so it's of the sea Interesting.
Speaker 2:So it's a no.
Speaker 1:Got it.
Speaker 2:It's a simple no. I would say the pregnant girl is definitely not the asshole. I would say the mother-in-law is the asshole because she's been out here.
Speaker 1:Putting shit together.
Speaker 2:Selling wolf tickets about mac and fucking cheese that's insane.
Speaker 1:I know that's crazy. Okay, so mine is. Am I the asshole for refusing to visit my mother-in-law after she fat shamed me following the birth of my baby?
Speaker 1:I saw this, I didn't read it though okay, so a few months had passed since my last post and I'm shocked by how many people related to my story. This update won't be long, but it took an unexpected turn, so I guess she posted it. She posted a different post, I didn't see that part. So after her post she got diagnosed with postpartum depression and anxiety and thus was medicated for it. Um well, anyone who takes those medications can tell you that they take away your appetite completely. So within four months she lost a total of 36 pounds, completely on accident.
Speaker 2:Where can I get these pills?
Speaker 1:They're antidepressant pills. This caused my milk supply to go down and then stop altogether. It has caused extremely low energy and it just, in general, makes me feel really crappy. Side note, I am in the process of getting these medications changed and hopefully back to normal. I'm also not happy with this loss. I don't feel healthy and it's put a strain on my marathon training because I feel too weak to run. I also haven't seen my mother-in-law in very long. My husband talked with her and she essentially had told him that she's being too, that I am being too sensitive and that I need to seek professional help. So, it says, yesterday was my father-in-law's birthday party, so we went over to celebrate, since my husband is very close with him.
Speaker 1:the moment my mother-in-law saw me, she immediately told me how skinny and better I looked interesting she was waving other family members of theirs over to look at me and all of them commented, um oh, commended me for how pretty I am now. My favorite was them saying don't you feel so much better now that all the baby weight is falling off? I had to bite my tongue and leave the conversation to cry in the bathroom. My husband, who wasn't in the room, came looking for me and I told him what they said. He flew out the bathroom and started yelling at his mom for making more comments on my body.
Speaker 1:She looked at me and started yelling at me that I need to learn to take compliments and clearly my brain disorders were causing me to be socially clueless. We left immediately and his mother has called many times and left voicemails saying I ruined her husband's birthday celebration for being too sensitive. Am I the asshole?
Speaker 2:sounds like your mother-in-law's a bitch right, like there's no other way to say it there's no other way to say it like, first of all, I'm being too sensitive, but you're telling for. Okay, here let's back up culturally. A lot of women, older women women, probably their mothers and their spouses' mothers probably talked about how, you know, their bodies looked and how bad they felt when they had baby weight and how bad they wanted to lose it.
Speaker 2:So they shamed other women for either keeping it or never having the ability to take it off, or never having the ability to take it off. So you know, let's more say, the asshole is the people who shamed her and made her think that what she's doing is okay. That's probably the asshole. But your mother-in-law is an asshole for actually continuing to perpetuate the same behaviors, right, and I just don't know where people get off making comments on other people's bodies, especially after they know they had a baby. Now she's also an asshole for saying what she said about your brain problems, which is rude as fuck.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And knowing you're on this medication.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:People are just so stupid and rude.
Speaker 1:Like brain disorder is crazy.
Speaker 2:Right. What does that mean?
Speaker 1:Yeah, honestly, like that's crazy to hit someone while they're down. To hit someone while they're down um, because, honestly, postpartum is like the worst thing ever, and then also feeling like shit like you said that you can't lose the weight and just adapting to your new body as a mother, just in general, whether you gain weight or not, like your body changes, um, so, yeah, what a freaking b-i-t-c-h like girl get a fucking girl yeah read the room. I mean read the room, karen it's just so rude, I mean.
Speaker 1:And then the other bitches are like follow her lead and like feed into this bullshit like you're weird.
Speaker 2:Grow a backbone it's giving follower who's blowing us up um all the baseball. Uh, some like tell them we're busy I know um, I'm not. I'm surprised that you have it on vibrate.
Speaker 1:I would have that shit on silent have it on vibrate, I would have that shit on silent. Well, isn't vibrate silent or like? Oh, you mean like completely silent, oh, like muted no but people are sending me direct and then my co-parent is like messaging me as well, like everyone just thinks. You know, I'm just like here at all times of the night, at all times it's definitely 9 10 pm you also?
Speaker 2:worked a full day, then you went to the game that they do things at last minute so just always available, wow we must be nice the jack of all trades story of my fucking life. I was just thinking about that earlier today. Sorry we digress. Yes, so everybody knows who they are.
Speaker 1:They are the assholes yes, they're all the ops they're all the ops.
Speaker 2:None of the people that wrote the things are the assholes, but the people they're all the ops. They're all the ops. None of the people that wrote the things are the assholes, but the people they were talking about definitely were assholes. I was just thinking about that earlier, about being jack of all trades, and I was like I do a lot of shit, especially the other day I went to this. It was called a Port 101.
Speaker 1:Oh, what is that?
Speaker 2:And they said it's literally like they tell you all the things that the port does. And they take you on a tour when you saw I posted that video, the picture Aww. And they was like share a fun fact and I shared that my. I was in fashion week when I first moved to San Diego and I was a designer for nine years and what'd they say I was like, oh, my god, that explains a lot. And I was like does it tell?
Speaker 2:me more what does it explain? Come on, sounds like you got it. Sounds like you understand sounds like I'm giving sounds like I'm giving it up every time I walk up to this door let her get this fenty tinted moisturizers. I mean. My outfit I'm wearing today is Fenty it is giving it's a giving bad bitch you know, it's a, it's a two piece it's a two piece.
Speaker 1:Do you have both pieces on? I don't know, stand up okay, let's see.
Speaker 2:Will you be able to see?
Speaker 1:everything.
Speaker 2:Yes, go back see if the camera oh oh, come on print, come on buddy it doesn't even have a real shape like you have to do it like the new goes.
Speaker 1:That's cool, it's cute.
Speaker 2:I got it for my birthday Friends.
Speaker 1:We're in fall Dana.
Speaker 2:I know it is fall. I did get it for my birthday. Someone bought it for me.
Speaker 1:Oh, it's cute, I like it.
Speaker 2:It's very comfy, Very boho, bohemian Anyway. So let's take our last break and then we'll come back and wrap up the show alright and we're back to wrap this thing up, put that thing down, flip it and reverse it.
Speaker 1:I like saying that for some reason, you do say that a lot.
Speaker 2:Unfortunately, because it's not your own phrase, we can't put it on a t-shirt, but we can credit missy elliott yes, shout out to her and I'm ready to throw it back this weekend.
Speaker 1:I've been saying that all day today. Yeah, yeah, I'm, mr. I don't know if I will. I mean sober, it is kind of hard to like.
Speaker 2:I mean girl, you better put some being gay on your back.
Speaker 1:A little pop on my shoulder. A little pop, a little papillana.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, the card I have says I am no longer my own worst enemy. I am the love of my life. Okay, cute, and it says my love. It's time to shower yourself in positive self-talk. Become your biggest hype man, right hand and ace boom. Coon honey, you spent most of your life speaking down to yourself and questioning your ability to show up in the world the way you truly desire. I love that. Mm-hmm peace. You are no longer your worst enemy. I love that. And it says how am I my worst enemy, engaging with negatives of talk or other patterns that keep me from reaching my highest potential? How can I become my biggest supporter and then love myself? Oh, I'm sorry. Yeah, and the love of my life, sorry. Oh, I like that.
Speaker 2:That is cute Okay.
Speaker 1:It's right on time for this weekend I need to be my hype man.
Speaker 2:Hype yourself up, sis. I need to hype myself up, but I'm still going to stick. I do need to get back to the gym. I really do want to, but my body clearly has been telling me just relax, like it'll happen you'll do it, you'll get back there, yeah, um. So that's kind of what I've been trying to do, but I do try to level myself. For the most part, I I really don't self-doubt a lot.
Speaker 1:I knew you were going to say some Leo shit like that. I was just like waiting for it. I really don't ever doubt myself or like bad talk myself, but I totally love this. I am my love of my life. Go off, sis. I am my love of my life. Go off, sis. Love that for you, queen I don't really know what self-doubt sounds like I mean, I don't really know what that means, but like, yes, love yourself, queen I.
Speaker 2:I really don't what the fuck is happening. My computer is trying to restart it. Better not restart so let's wrap it up okay, make sure to like, comment and subscribe and follow.
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